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When to let go?

This isn't havanese related but you guys have great advice so am hoping for some of that now
My oldest dog is only about 8 yrs old (could be older or younger it is a vets guess she's a rescue) and is a Great Dane mix and has been having some health issues lately I'm not planning on losing her for a few more years (20 would be nice ) but how do you know when is the time? Obviously not now she's not too bad yet she's slower now lays around all the time has really bad eyesight which does cause her to freak out a lot especially outside she has a harder time jumping on the bed or into the car
yesterday she didn't want to go on her walk she usually like it a lot (which is what is making me type this) but she's still playful (as long as she doesn't have to get up lol) she likes bitey face while laying and doesn't seem to be in tons of pain although she does bite her leg/hip and growl at it lots (I'm assuming it bothers her)
I worry sometimes that I will hold onto her longer than I should how bad should her quality of life get before it would be better to let her go? Again not looking for now I'm tearing up just writing this but I don't want to selfishly keep her here if she's in too much pain she's still pretty young so I hopefully have a few more yrs before I have to worry about this
I have a vet appointment in a couple weeks to hopefully get her some pain meds
The last week or so she's been laying more and usually she jumps when it's diner time she hasn't been doing that either I think her hips are bothering her more than usual
I can be a big worrier and she's acting different this week which of course has me worried lol
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She's so regal laying there on her bed. It is good you have a vet appointment, you can go over things with him. I do know that Great Danes don't have near as long of life spans as our Havs, and they have their own ring of health problems to watch for.

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Sheri is right, the big breeds don't have the long life spans of the smaller breeds, but her pain could be simply arthritis or something else treatment could alleviate. I am glad you are taking her to the vet, you can have a good conversation and hopefully the examination can give you clarification. It is too soon to be thinking about letting her go don't let your mind go there until that time comes. You will know in your heart then.


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You love her and you'll know when her quality of life is diminished too much. When the pain isn't manageable, when she can't get around on her own (and the pain is bad when you help her) or when the bad time/ days outweigh the good.

It's definitely a hard decision. I've seen it when someone waited too long (one of the last big dogs by parents had my Dad was carrying her from her chair outside, holding her up to pee, and carrying her back and she was in pain). I also had to go through the decision a few years ago when my Dalmatian was almost 16. I sometimes wonder if I went too early, but know that if I did it was only possibly by a matter of months. She was deaf from birth, went blind at about 15 and by the time I let her go was incontinent, in pain and was having trouble sometimes getting up or when standing on hardwood floors (but could walk on her own once you helped her up).

It's an incredibly hard decision, but you'll be able to tell when it's getting too hard for her.
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When to let go?

Thank you everyone I've never been through old age in dogs my only other dog was years ago and she didn't make it to old age so Luna's pain is upsetting the last vet she saw( a year ago in may) thought she was doing good but she is much much worse than last yr now I know I shouldn't have to worry about things like this yet but Because shes been acting different this last week or so it really makes me start to worry
I have a lot to discuss with the new vet (I feel the old vet charged too much so took sprocket to a new one I like them will take Luna there in 2 weeks)
she does drip pee occasionally after she goes and sometimes when she stands from laying not much but it's noticeable
I don't have to lift her at all she's 90lbs so def would be hard to do lol but yesterday she refused her walk again and I tried to get her to fetch she loves playing with a ball she did kinda walk/Trot once to retrieve it but then brung it back and laid down hopefully it's something the vet can help me with
She is reactive to other dogs when on a leash and still reacts to them so I figure she's not in too much pain to do that lol
I'm assuming her hips are bothering her more than usual hopefully pain meds will help her



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You might also want to look into/ research some supplements. When one of my parents' dogs had arthritis/ joint problems/ pain walking they gave them Glucosamine and Chondroitin (If I remember right) and it seemed to help
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Thank you hopefully the vet will be able to help her be more comfortable and I will research those supplements at work


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your vet should be your best advice. Hugs
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Dogs are good at masking pain, but it sounds like your pooch could use medication sooner than two weeks from now. Your schedule may not allow, but if you could I would insist that the vet see her because she is showing signs of great discomfort. If it were me that was in pain, I wouldn't want to wait that long.

I agree that large breeds have a shorter life span than smaller ones.
We had a Havanese before Tux who had lots of health issues. She began to lose control of her legs at 10 years of age. We managed to get 3 more years of "quality" life, (she could walk if we gave her Prednisone), until the medications and all her other health issues came to a point of no return. She was okay until she began to vomit, didn't want to eat, was panting really fast, and was obviously in a lot of pain. I knew then that it would be inhumane and selfish to allow her to suffer since the treatments we were giving her were no longer helping. The vet confirmed by blood tests that organs were failing. We said our goodbyes there at the vet's, and she died in our arms. It was the most heart wrenching moment of my life, but I KNEW it was the right thing to do. The vet agreed.

I don't second guess our decision. You should have your vet explain what to watch for so you can be aware, but hopefully the pain is merely arthritis or something that can work with pain management. Hopefully you can take her soon.
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Maybe I should try a different vet just to get her in faster? This vet does close somewhat early and I had to take a half day off work to get her in which requires a 2 week notice at work that's y it takes 2weeks to c vet
Maybe I'll see if I can get her to c her original vet one last time they are open till really late just charges twice as much but worth it if you think it sounds like she's in a lot more pain than I thought I definitely don't want her to be hurting


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