Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: North Carolina
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Lucile, I can understand how you feel, you want to see people but the planing etc is so tiring even when we're healthy. You need to have a talk with family members. You need a maid service before they come, not because your house is dirty, but you have set a certain standard for 20 yrs and you want to maintain it. Also someone needs to be there to help you supervise. After the party you also need a cleaning crew, if family members want to do it, fine but it all must be to your expectations. Also even just making for sure things are being done right and visiting, everyone needs to know that you many need to go up for little naps or rest, this is not anti-social, but these days you get tired easily after all you have been through medically, and as we age it takes longer to fully recover and this means our energey level. Even the anticipation of a happy event can make us tired after a long illness. You are still recovering and trying your wings to see how far they will open and how long you can keep them open.
It is very hard to delegate for some of us esp. things in our home. After all you have been through you need the help, I learned when my late husband was very ill for five years, sometimes you must ask for help, it is the hardest thing for some of us, just a little help can mean all the difference. I learned that friends and family do want to help but often just don't know what they can do, they know how to say the words but are truely at a loss at what they can do.
Have that talk enjoy yourself, selfishly and completely, you have fought a hugh health battle, enjoy your victory do thing for you.
Also if you get the maid service they will not do it as good as you, because no one can, so just let them do what they can.
Robbie, Boo Boo, Yogi, and Misty's human.
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