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post #1 of 26 (permalink) Old 05-23-2007, 10:38 PM Thread Starter
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Not a baby anymore!

Just need to vent a little .....

Our oldest, Alex (17), just left for France this evening. He plays competitive soccer and his team will compete in an International tournament there in the coming days. They will also get to visit Paris for 2 nights and days, touring the sights and all. sigh...... I would have loved to go too!

I'll miss Alex a lot. He's such a huge help here and so thoughtful. My other two, Mike (15) and Lina (12) are also great kids of course. You know how it is when one of your kids is gone ... things are different around here for a while.

He'll be gone for 8 days. We are so very happy for him and hope he has an amazing experience that he'll remember for a long time, but I am feeling a little selfish and would love to either be there with him or not have him gone for so long.

sigh....... he's not a baby anymore, I guess. Graduating from high school this June too!! Where on earth did the time go??!!




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ohhhhh.....the crossroads of life, when they are not babies anymore and becoming their own person! It is great that you recognize your own feelings about this and yet support this wonderful opportunity for him (can you tell I was a social worker in another lifetime?) Anyway, mine are 10,12, and 14---Friday is the last day of school for them; and then my oldest is on to high school---seems she had a pacifier in her mouth just yesterday! Sounds like you have wonderful kids and a star on your hands! Be proud. Give him BIG HUGS when he returns....as much as he'll tolerate.
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Oh Marj, I feel for you. We're in similar shoes! My daughter took off for France and England last summer with the Student Ambassador program for a month with a group of 40 kids that she didn't know before. And now, she graduates from high school in just a couple of weeks and will be heading off to college. It's hard to believe how quickly the time has gone.

Alex gets to break the ground for you and his two siblings.
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post #4 of 26 (permalink) Old 05-24-2007, 06:07 AM
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I remember all the emotions when my children graduated from high school....now, at 23, my youngest is 7 hours away and "all grown up". I got one of those Mother's Day cards from her that starts with "to my Mother, my friend".....I MELTED! I remember giving one to my mother and how much I really meant it. Now I'm on the receiving end and I feel so fortunate to have that kind of relationship with my daughter. But, I still miss the high school days, the trials and tribulations, the three sport athlete and all the "social" times in the stands. I'll be 54 this year, my mom turned 83, and now I've become more of a caretaker than a friend to her. The cycle goes on......
Congratulations to all the High School grads....to all you parents out there, enjoy these times together......

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I know I'm not the only one going through this and that helps. It's part of life..... sigh..... As to hugs and kisses, well, I did manage to get a few in when saying goodbye at the airport, but it's not exactly 'cool' to have mom hang on to you like that, don't you know?

Kara, sounds like you'll be into the parenting at home business for quite some time yet! Lord help you! lol I think getting pups was my way of hanging on to some 'mommy' thing too. At least the pups don't sass back or cost me an arm and a leg in groceries!!

We have two graduations this June... Alex, who will be finishing high school and attending Cegep (exists only in Quebec - between grade 11 and University) in August and Lina who is finishing off grade 6 and starting high school in the fall. Mike goes on to grade 10.

Judy, it's true that the cycle continues, doesn't it? I catch myself saying things I swore I'd never say, just because my own mom used to say them! lol

Things are moving a little too fast some days!




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I know how you feel Marj. My oldest Son (27) packed up and moved to Northern British Columbia to work on the oil pipeline almost 2 years ago. The best thing that could happen to him, but he only calls every 6 months or so. The Brat. But because of the age difference between my kids, it will be awhile before the next two leave. Now 2 & 5.

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ahhhhhhh Marj. Isn't it funny how they get older but we don't




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That must be tough, Debbie, not hearing from your son very often. I sometimes catch myself thinking about that, about where they'll be 5, 10, 20 yrs. from now and if we'll live close to our kids, if they'll call and visit often, what their lives will be like. Who knows? We all want our kids to be happy and do what they love, but I admit that I would be devastated if I hardly heard from them or if they lived so very far.

I'm glad we have 3 kids - maybe at least one of them will be close by!! lol

It's like starting over for you, with two kids still so young. I know you're happy for your son. Sometimes the boys aren't quite as in tune to what us mommies need. I just hope that whomever mine marry or live with will be caring enough to remind my sons to call home once in a while!!

Missy, you know we dont' age. Nope, of course not!




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It is funny (almost) I would find and read this thread.With my oldest just graduating,it has been hard.He is 18(june will be 19)and thinks he really knows it all.He plans to attend a local college in the fall and is enrolled.He has a girlfriend we don't care for ...and she takes priority over everyone else.It hurts alot when you see them do things they shouldn't etc.and head down the wrong path,with the wrong person!He has always been one of my closest friends,and then one day you look around and not only is he not a little boy anymore,but the "mom"is replaced with a girlfriend.What do Mom's do after that?

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Oh gosh, I know how you all feel. My youngest baby boy is 18 and graduating from high school next week.

My oldest son (23) just graduated from college (going on to grad school). He was just 4, I swear!!! I still have another son (20) in college, but I have a married daughter, 28, who has a 6 year old daughter. But I'm only 29.

That's why I got Skiver. I needed a baby again. And soon Seaclaid will be home. The breeder wants to keep him a couple of more weeks, just cuz these pups are smaller than his others and wants to be sure they are all good and healthy before he lets them go, so they are still nursing and eating solid food, too. He's only 8 weeks, so that's good. Then I will have 2 little babies again
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