Originally Posted by Melissa Miller
And Im not a breeder so I shouldn't be answering. LOL
But Melissa, if you've ever been a potential "show home" you have the experience to answer.
I spent many, many months looking for my first show Havanese. In the interim, I'd gotten my first show dog, a Keeshond. I'd originally started looking for a pet dog for my girls. I'd created a "short list" of 10 breeds for us to investigate as my girls "first puppy." I'd had four dogs when they were born, but eventually when they were old enough, wanted them to experience my joy as a child of having their "own" dog. As my original four aged and passed, we were down to one old grouch, Baron, my 17-year old Pomeranian that just died in June.
We went to over 20 dog shows, meeting breeders, introducing the girls to the adults of a breed - no puppies - so that they could decide what they liked best. If we did visit a breeders home to see puppies, the rule was, "we don't take a puppy home today, we'll come back" All puppies are cute. Some grown dog breeds aren't. So I was extremely intentional in my research and search. Moreover, my girls are special needs, adopted babies from the foster system that didn't have the best in-utero life. I wanted dogs that could perhaps someday become therapy dogs or assistants to the girls should their disabilities ever become "significant."
When my lovely friend and Keeshond breeder offered me one of her "show" potential girls, the show bug bit me HARD and I fell in love with the sport of showing dogs and the possibility of some day becoming a breeder.
I started my Havanese search at the same time. But never updated the breeders that I'd placed pet puppy applications with as to WHY my desires had changed. All they saw was that a "pet" person, now wanted a "show" dog. A HUGE RED FLAG TO RESPONSIBLE BREEDERS
. But being naieve, I didn't know that.
I ended up on a NATIONAL-DO-NOT-SELL-TO-LIST based on a personal interview report from some Havanese forum members.
I was absolutely devastated. If it hadn't been for Katie and Elaine, I would have stopped my search all together. In the end, it's turned out for the best - I got to meet way more breeders than most potential "show" homes ever do. I learned a valuable lesson. More importantly, it's created some incredible friendships with Havanese breeders. Because to overcome what happened, these breeders and I had to honestly communicate. And in the process, we discovered personal similaries and have traits that we admire in each other. It was incredibly painful at the time and every once in a while my feelings still hurt when I remember what happened. But I have to keep it in perspective. Those who are friends now, didn't know me from shineola back then. And they take their stewardship of this breed to heart. And in the end that's what matters - our lovely, funny Havanese.
And besides the universe takes care of those people who deserve an upside smack on the head with a 2X4. The person who put me on the do-not-sell-to-list has been so busted by her former colleagues.