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They are so cute, and you are so great to think about them.
In life, there are no guarantees. You can hedge your bets, but you can't count on them. So, you have to decide whether you'd be willing to see through the worst possibility. Oliver's left front leg does look odd, but it really may be that the camera is catching that upper joint full on, while it is not catching the joint on the right leg. You'd have to see it, I think. Or, you could ask to have several pix with different angles sent to you.
And, of course, even a malformation not be a terribly expensive problem for a home pet. It might be -- and there might be issues you couldn't even anticipate.
When I wanted a fourth child, I wanted to adopt -- it seemed the ethical thing to do. DH and I went to a presentation from social services. We listened. It was very emotional. But, in the end, DH said--we are not equipped to take this kind of risk. Don't have the money, don't have the room, don't have the time. It broke my heart (though I do love, love, love, our fourth child!!!!).
On the other hand, when I was pregnant with that fourth child, and, because of my age, they wanted to do an amnio, I decided against it because, in the end, I knew that, for most abnormalities, such as Downs Syndrome, I would not terminate the pregnancy. So, at that point, I just accepted all the risks.
Bottom line -- you have to make the best call for you.