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Is it OK if your Havs aren't perfect?

My boys have come a very long way. Especially Jasper with his many fears and aggression. But they are not perfect (and neither am I.) They bark at the door...they don't always come... Jasper still attacks the mail... And neither like their nails clipped... But they are basically good boys... is it OK to just enjoy them and not try to solve every problem?

Perhaps I am just feeling tired, I got some very sound advice on the mail thing, and it is basically going back to square one with Jasper.

I feel guilty not wanting to deal with it, like I am betraying them by not resolving these issues-- which would make their lives have much less stress (and ours) but at the same time, I wonder if it is ever ok to just let them be?

I know I am not alone, so I was hoping you all could share your own thoughts on this issue.

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post #2 of 75 (permalink) Old 10-28-2009, 07:44 PM
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Missy you are not alone, I think we all have things that we think we could do better. All we can do ,is try our best so that we have peace with ourselves. There is no such thing as perfect. Even the best trained dogs have issues that cannot be resolved ,nor do they have to be.

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Dave, I like your response, you put it well.

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My dogs aren't perfect or am I. Neither of us ever will be and that's ok! I go through training bursts with them. Sometimes I'm excited and focused on what I want to work on and then sometimes it all just fades away. Whether I'm training a trick or working out a problem or just trying to get more excercise with them, I ALWAYS enjoy them! It depends on whether YOU are happy, THEY are happy and YOUR FAMILY is happy with whats going on.

Right now it's barking! I would personally be happier if people could come in to my house and be heard over the initial barking! It's hard on me and on company and I feel the dogs are overly anxious, so that's where I'm focused right now. Most of this year has been focusing on potty training. I've been finishing up with Marley to make sure he is completely house trained--he is yay! Working on Chingy who is 11 years old but was having mistakes for awhile after she came here--doing great now! And working with Phoebe who is 3 years old, but came through rescue and I doubt was ever potty trained. Phoebs is doing really well as long as we keep to a schedule, but won't tell me when she has to go!
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Kind of like raising kids, you do your best...and pray a LOT!

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and all the love they give you makes it all worth while.
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Heck Missy, I don't even know what perfect looks like. Because you try soooo hard and care soooo much makes you just about perfect in my book.
Just enjoy!

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Be yourself, everyone else is taken.
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My husband constantly reminds me "they are animals, they are dogs, they have animal instincts and can't always be predictable." But, like Ann, I actually think kids ARE harder! I only feel guilty with my dogs when I neglect to give attention, exercise, or skip the grooming. The training is great, and I think it increases the bond, but the only reason I am working on it in classes is to try therapy work. Otherwise I would probably just still be doing the lame training I learned with our first dog which was basically sit, NO, come, wait, stay and down! Oh yes, and shake!! And speak!! Or QUIET!! Just the basic stuff.

And Missy, one of my favorite videos is the dogs attacking the mail. They must think it is an intruder?!?

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Missy, I dont even have my hav yet, but honestly I have learned that having a dog is like having a kid. theyre never perfect. What if theyre not the smartest? Who cares? You still love them the way they are unvconditionally
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Yea, I realized Cooper sucked a long time ago. But, he's happy...

You're a great hav mama!

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