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post #1 of 55 (permalink) Old 01-18-2010, 03:37 PM Thread Starter
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How do you respond?

We are buying our Havanese from a reputable breeder (he's awesome, and i researched intensely), and yet when I tell some people about us buying a puppy, I get berated. "You should rescue...you should adopt...why are you buying a puppy when there are so many orphans out there...".

Honestly? I have rescued/adopted ALL of my cats (2...both from the street) and 1 dog (from a shelter), and they were great! My husband is allergic however, and my dreams (as well as our sons dreams) of owning a dog are finally coming to fruition because....HUSBAND IS NOT ALLERGIC TO HAVANESE!! I searched for a Havanese to rescue, but couldn't find any. So I decided to search for a breeder. When I found Jeff, I made an appointment to visit. He brought up a few puppies and we all fell in love with 1 particular little guy, "Gilligan" (now he will be our "Turbo"). We went home and discussed, and did pros/cons lists...and decided YES.

Any way, back to my original point, these comments from friends/family are understandable, but seriously, I am getting annoyed by having to defend ourselves.

Have you/do you go through this? I would love to hear suggestions on how to deal (other than telling them to go away )

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Hi and welcome to the forum! So, who is Jeff? Seems to ring a bell for some reason...??

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Tell them that you researched all of your options and have decided that purchasing a puppy from this breeder is in the best interest of your family and the most likely to result in finding a pet to live out its life with you.


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Jeff is the breeder

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Margaret- that is exactly what I tell them.

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Is this the same breeder? Lots of discussion about him....

http://havaneseforum.com/showthread....t=jeff+breeder


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I got the same response from some people when I was so excited about getting Roscoe. I simply told them that both my boyfriend and I are quite allergic to dogs that shed and there is no way to effectively determine if dogs from a shelter will shed or not. The second reason was that we needed to have a dog that would weigh under 30 lbs as our condo association does not permit any larger dogs.

Mostly I just wanted to tell them to mind their own business, as Roscoe came from an extremely responsible, reputable breeder, but I was a little more gentle than that! :P

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Is this the same breeder? Lots of discussion about him....

http://havaneseforum.com/showthread....t=jeff+breeder


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I certainly hope that's not her breeder. If it is, I would RUN!!

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I simply say that I finally found a breed I am not allergic too, I am even allergic to poodles so I can not risk a rescue of mixed breeds.




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This may sound direct but honestly I think it's out of line to criticize others like this. We all make decisions that suit us. If I were confronted with this kind of commentary I would quickly and firmly change the subject with the underlying message being - my decision, comfortable with it..not asking for your input.

I'm amazed that people do this...
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