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Am I crazy?

I never thought I'd say this....but IWAP! Lola has been so difficult....the shyness/fearfulness of people, potty training was a real pia [she was a crate peer so I couldn't successfully crate train] and I'm still dealing with her SA issues. She barks & is stressed when I leave her alone. But, I still want another! Am I crazy? Will another puppy really help with Lola's SA issues? Some people seem to think it won't help. She loves being around other dogs, I think she'd be happier when left alone if she had a playmate.

I keep thinking that if I get a puppy from a better breeder who can really evaluate the puppy's personality then I won't have the same issues I've had with Lola. But maybe that's an unrealistic thought? Those issues being the shyness/fearfulness, crate peeing and maybe the SA. Does the second pup have a less likely chance of developing SA because it has the older pup to keep him/her company?
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Yes it could work but what if the new puppy follows Lola's lead instead of the other way around?

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Hi Susie, if you are up to the challenge. Make sure to think about these things though ...

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Just give me Lola and get you a new one. LOL
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It's hard not to WAP on this forum. You're not crazy. You have a good point about a second puppy keeping Lola company. You can always adopt an older rescue if you want to skip the puppy/pottytraining stage.

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You are not crazy. Two havs are great! Maybe you want to consider getting an older dog or an older puppy though. Maybe Lola would learn from a well adjusted, older dog. I know a few people on the forum have gotten older dogs or older puppies (inlcuding my mother). Just a thought.

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I found it much easier for years to have two. They have each other when you leave. It's always worked for me.

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Getting my second Havanese did help my first Hav's SA...but he gave my second hav SA, but all in all I think it is the best with this breed to have 2 of them to keep each other company when everyone is gone.

When getting your second hav I would really look around for a breeder that would help you match new puppy to your situation.

I have never regretted getting my second Hav it helped out so much with my first hav's SA. It did not happen over night, it took a few months for them to bond....ok maybe more than a few months, but they are comfort to each other now when home alone now for sure.
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You might want to get an excellent little booklet on SA, "I'll Be Home Soon", by Patricia McConnell. She famous in doggie circles for writing "The Other End of the Leash". She describes SA in detail first, so you can decide if your dog truly has this problem. Then she gives a very detailed, positive training/desensitization process to help reduce/eliminate it.

You asked if a second dog will help, she (and other experts) says generally not and when you read through the booklet that seems to make sense. One idea - you might want to really work with Lola first, to ease the problem, then look for that second little sweetie.

Good luck!

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