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Unhappy My Beloved Quincy has to be put to sleep today.

I'm probably a week overdue. I've just kept putting off calling vet because of my guilt over Winston [the puppy we're getting] and not really wanting to believe he was really dying [he's had liver cancer for 2.5 months].

We took him boating 1.5 weekends ago. We were so excited that he made it to go boating [didn't think he would live that long]. Poor guy got sick a couple times; he really tried to enjoy it but it was too much I think. His bark changed shortly after to a hoarse sound [he's a beagle]. He then stopped wanting to go for a walk late last week [the biggest sign]. And he has been throwing up a lot the past couple days [no room because of the tumor].

I called the vet yesterday but she was out until the am. With his symptoms, she said it is time. She said if she saw him and thought it wasn't time, she'd send him home, but she was pretty sure he wouldn't be coming home with me.

I feel like he knows he's being 'replaced' and that's why. I feel guilty for looking at puppies and planning his replacement. I also feel guilty I kept him so long [he really looks terrible]. And I'm sad. He was a great dog. We've had him for >12 years [he was a pup when we adopted him and we were newlyweds with no human kids yet].

Thanks for letting me pour it out. It's going to be hard. I'm sending my kids to a neighbors to play so I can take him alone. My middle child is at camp an hour south so I was going to wait until tomorrow but no one can watch the kids tomorrow. So now I'm just sneaking off with him so I don't have 2 that got to say goodbye and one that didn't.....we all gave him lots of love last night though, like subconsciously I knew.....


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I am so sorry - I want to puke just thinking about how you must sorry....Hugs..

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Oh Trish. I am so sorry you have to go thru this. Losing a pet is one of the hardest thing to go thru. I am tearing up just reading about Quincy. I know we can say 'at least he wont be suffering' but it doesnt really help because we want them here with us. Again. i am so sorry and just know we are all crying with you.

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Trish, the tears are rolling down my face as I read. I am so sorry. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts as Quincy passes over the rainbow bridge.

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I'm so sorry Trish......your post made me cry.I know how you feel.Say your good byes to your beloved Quincy and after a few will see that Quincy would not want you to feel sad...he would want you to share your love with another dog.I'm so sorry.......

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Our animals bring so much pleasure to our lives, but we do have to go through the losses. I think Quincy was trying to hold on until you got your Winston. He knew you loved him, you took care of him but it was time for him to go. Be sad for now, then be happy again with Winston. I always look on my animals as chapters of my life, when one chapter ends another begins.

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I'm here crying with you!! You are giving Quincy the best gift of love for his years of love and companionship helping him cross the Rainbow Bridge. He won't suffer anymore.
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I know a little of what you're going through. We had to let our beloved Molly (a maltese) go after congestive heart failure made it impossible for her to live comfortably. I understand the guilt, but you really shouldn't feel guilty.
Because you are doing the right thing. Quincy trusts you completely and will love you no matter what. He needs this release, but it's just from his physical body, he will never be released from your heart or your memory. You are not replacing him, you could never do that, he's one of a kind. This puppy is just going to be there to help you cope with the loss of him. So love and enjoy your puppy knowing that you loved Quincy with everything that you had. You have loved him enough to let him go.

Whew, this is harder to write than I thought it was going to be. I'm sorry I got so emotional about it. But please just know that there are folks out here who are thinking about you today. And my heart goes out to you.

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I'm so sorry. I know how very, very difficult it is to do what you are about to do. My thoughts are with you.
Please don't think that your plans to get a new puppy somehow hastened this. Maybe Quincy knows that its okay to go now knowing you'll be loved by the puppy soon. He'll always be in your heart and he'll be waiting at the Rainbow Bridge.....



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Trish - I am so sorry and, like everyone, am sitting here with tears in my eyes. I know a lot of us have been through the "drive to the vet" situation and that it is not easy. Please know that we are all here for you and are thinking of you and your family.
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