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Cool Male or Female- what's your favorite?

Hello all. My husband and I believe we want a male Havanese. Our ideal dog would be playful and affectionate. I've read that female Havanese can tend to me more aloof and less affectionate than male dogs. Obviously, a healthy pup and good temperament is the/our primary priority. Given those things the same - male or female? Thank you for any feedback! Happy New Year to all!
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When we were researching this breed, we read that both males and females are very affectionate and devoted to their owners. It was interesting, however, because we also read that the female Havanese says, "I LOVE YOU," whereas the male Havanese says, "I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU," i.e., is even more into his owner than the female. We don't consider Shama (a female runt of a runt) to be aloof, but she is very independent and prefers to always be on the go as opposed to settling down in our laps like we imagined a lap dog would. She loves to play (even by herself) and seems very happy when we play with her, i.e., isn't aloof when she could be engaging with us. We're thinking that as she ages, she may settle down more and eventually behave more like a stereotypical lap dog . . . Good luck with your decision. You didn't ask, but I would encourage you to not choose your dog based on its coloring. There are so many color possibilities among the Havanese, and personality should definitely trump coloring . . .
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We had 3 Havanese, 1 female and 2 males. We had Violet for a little over year before we got Spencer. She was very affectionate, and followed me everywhere.
Spencer was definitely a lap dog and very bonded to my husband. Frederick was next and he and Spencer were only 6 months apart. Frederick was very affectionate, and a Velcro dog!

Now we have Jade and she follows us and loves to be carried around.
I think personality is what you should look for. Having had both I don't have a preference.
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My Molly is really the best of both worlds. She can be independent, amuse herself with her toys, and not have to follow me everywhere I go in the house. On the other hand, her favorite spot to chill is on my lap when I am sitting in my recliner. She is definitely a dog that loves people. When I would take her to another home for a play date with another Hav she would give equal attention to the owner as well as the dog! I wanted a female because I did not want to deal with marking or humping. As payback I got a female that loves to hump her toys! Thank God she doesn't try it with people.
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I don't think that gender is nearly as important as personality of the dog and personality can vary widely! For example, Ricky is very independent and confident, BUT he always wants to be in the vicinity of us. If Momi and I are going two different directions, Ricky will follow me. Given a choice he prefers to hang out with me. If Momi and I are in the same room, he prefers to snuggle with Momi. If I move to a different room, Ricky will get up and follow me. However, Ricky has his 4 foot rule with me, he will lay near me but usually 4 feet away. Generally, he does not want to cuddle with me, only Momi. It's a guy thing.

Don't get hung up on gender, coloring, size, etc. You will know the right one when you see it......and it is usually because the dog will pick YOU for its forever home rather than you picking the dog!

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Our first havanese was a male and very much a lap dog. He became ours at 10yrs when my Dad passed away. When Sparky was 14yrs old I knew he would probably not live much longer due to his cardiomyopathy. I decided it had to be another male Havanese because Sparky was such a great dog. He was affectionate, quiet, loved his toys, going for walks and riding in the car. He liked to cuddle on the sofa or sit in our lap. When Scout arrived as a 11 week old puppy the two got to be good friends for one year. Scout is the sweetest dog ever and tries to get everyones attention to pet him. He isn't a lap dog, but is very affectionate. We decided to get another Havanese because he thought Scout missed his buddy. This time we got Truffles a female. She has a totally different personality than our males. She became the boss of the house from the first day at 3 lbs. My friend says she has an attitude. All attention must be on her! She doesn't want Scout to get any extra attention. Scout always let's her have her way. Truffles isn't a lap dog, but does like to sit next to us or behind us on top of the sofa. She loves to give kisses which Scout doesn't do. She growls at anything she doesn't like. 😉 I've never heard Scout growl. 😊 Truffles always has to follow us. I would say from my limited experience males are sweet and laid back. Females higher energy and a little bossy! 😁 Both are affectionate, but if different ways.
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Thank you! As far as coloring, when I sent our information to the breeder, although we like lighter colors - Healthy and good temperament is the priority so I agree - we're not choosing a dog for its color. I get freaked out by ticks and I guess thats why lighter color! But, no - I love all the clors of Havanese - just beautiful dogs!
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I have two girls and a boy, and have many friends with both. This isn't a breed with a strong difference between sexes... Ricky's Popi is right... ask the breeder to help you pick the RIGHT dog for you. I had no strong gender preference for Kodi, my first, and because the people ahead of me on the waiting list wanted girls, and the Kings had a litter of all boys, I got a puppy. It was love at first sight for both of us, although we also did temperament testing. Kodi loves EVERYBODY, but is especially attached to me. He's not a "lap dog" per se, but is always close by.

Pixel came next, and again, I didn't have a strong preference... although I was slightly leaning toward a girl, just to experience both. Se is TOTALLY attached to my husband, although I am "second best" if he's not around. She's more cautious with strangers, but once she has decided you are a friend, you're a friend for life. She is definitely the most intense of my three.

Panda was a happy mistake... I wasn't even looking for a puppy. I was helping temperament test a litter for a friend, and just fell in love with her tremendously out-going, "look at me" attitude. She is the wild child trouble maker, but also tremendously affectionate. She is the only one who will actively ask to get up in our laps. Not all the time, but she's very insistent when she wants it.

I find all three very sweet and loving, even though they have different personalities. What I've seen, both in my dogs and other people's Havanese is that the girls have a bit more intensity about them, while they boys are just a bit more chill.
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I wanted a female to lessen the chance of having a dog that humps and/or marks. Emmie does neither. YEAH! I love her independent, confident and playful nature and how much she adores her mama, and as she gets older (almost 5) she gets even cuddlier. She used to prefer to be on the floor near me while watching TV and sleep in her crate at night but now she hangs out or sleeps next to me on the couch and bed. Her temperament is ideal for me and our lifestyle - we go lots of different places everyday and she does well with new experiences. I lucked out with the perfect dog for me and my family. I'm so blessed to have her in my life.
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Thank you! As far as coloring, when I sent our information to the breeder, although we like lighter colors - Healthy and good temperament is the priority so I agree - we're not choosing a dog for its color. I get freaked out by ticks and I guess thats why lighter color! But, no - I love all the clors of Havanese - just beautiful dogs!
I have to agree with you about it being easier to find a tick on a light colored dog. Ticks are a problem here because of all the deer. We have found a few on Scout. We now give both dogs NexGard once a month and haven't seen a tick.
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