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Yes, I know there is a bit a of a disconnect with the title of the thread and the person (moi) posting it. I ADORE MY BOYS AND WOULD NOT TRADE THEM FOR THE WORLD (and yes I still IWAP and IWAPJLR) But I thought it would be good for all the newbies out there and those considering a 2nd or 3rd to have a place for a reality check. We as a group are always so eager to say get a 2nd or 3rd of 4th, rescue, foster, buy... but this is a thread for a reality check...please share the reasons NOT to have multiple havs. Please share the instances you may have wished you did not get a 2nd or 3rd. It goes without saying that YOU ADORE YOUR NEEZERS AND WOULDN'T GIVE THEM UP FOR THE WORLD... so let's just have an honest thread about having multiples and what it means...I write this because It so saddens me to see so many neezers in rescue, and would hate to see them adopted and end up back.
for me (be sure to see the words in CAPS above) Two really changed our lives in a way one did not.
1) It is a lot more work with two (and I keep them short.) you become a
pet wrangler- one always needs something.
2) It actually is a lot more money... double the vet, double the groomer,
double the food (and don't kid yourself, you will probably end up
feeding high end at least part of the time.) And the biggy for us is
double the boarding. if we want to go away for a week it costs us an
extra $500-600 to board our boys in place where they are cared for in
the way we care for them. And it is a lot easier to have a friend take
one dog than two---
In these economic times--- how confident are you that your source of
income is secure?
3) less freedom-- since the boys (and the cost of boarding and finding a
place we feel comfortable leaving them) we have not taken a vacation
where we could not take them... I love having them with us, but I do
miss going on European or Tropical vacations.
4) personality--- you are never sure how a new addition will fit in with
your pack. I have mentioned this before, We got Cash to try and bring
Jasper out of his shell. And allthough my boys love each other, they are
not the best match... Jasper is intense, doesn't play, loves to
walk...Cash is laid back, loved to play, hates to walk. Jasper is
dominant, so Cash doesn't get to play unless we play with him. These
differences means, we are their walk mates and play mates... Cash
can't walk as far as Jas-- so that is two walks. And for poor Cash, we
play a lot with him, but nothing replaces the play of brother and that
makes us sad. And when Jas does play, it is intense running laps
around the yard...he tries to get Cash to chase him but Cash just plops
down in the middle and watches Jasper (and then humps him when he
is done...LOL) There are times I think perhaps they would be happier
with different housemates or even as solo dogs. Of course working with
a truly reputable breeder can help fit you with a perfect addition.
5) double the dirt and fur(hair) in your house, and don't forget, dogs do gross
things like throw up, express their anal glands, and get ticks and fleas
no matter how well you take care of them.
ok, breaking my own rule with a disclaimer... Those of you who have known me since The Forum began... For all of this, I adore both my boys for exactly who they are. And luckily we are able to absorb the costs, and time that it takes. But last year, because of the economy, both me and DH had our salaries reduced, and were working a lot more for less pay...which meant a lot less time and energy for the boys and more visits (and therefore more expense) from the pet sitter. And they still had to be groomed, still had to go to the vet, still had to eat RAW. If we had children, I am not sure we could have handled it.
So don't leave me hanging out here as the only negative Nelly...Please help those considering a 2nd or a 3rd really weigh the pros vs the cons. You can preface your post with IAMHAWTTFTW!( I adore my havanese' and wouldn't trade them for the world.) But share those moments when you may have had 2nd thoughts.
Missy, Jasper & Cash
Last edited by Missy; 06-23-2010 at 08:52 AM.