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Help needed urgently - feeling desperate

Rollo is now getting on for 6th months old - we have had him since he was 14 weeks. He is a lovely little dog but has so many problems. Main problem at the moment is separation anxiety which is extreme. We have always had him in a crate in our bedroom, but he wakes us up at about 3.00am, banging on the crate and whining. Last night we had had enough and so moved his crate downstairs. (He is usually ok going in his crate and does so on his own). He howled and barked all night and twice managed to Houdini himself out of the crate (I have no idea how) and run up to the bedroom. We have put a baby gate on one room, which I set up with his toys, stuffed kong, crate, blankets etc but he screams continuously, biting at the bars of the gate and barking. I am now so sleep deprived I can barely function. He has never been left on his own and I am trying to train him to be alone so husband and I can go out together from time to time. I am close to tears. He doesn't like to travel in the car either and is usually sick, also terrible to walk on a lead.

I love Rollo to pieces but am feeling a nervous wreck. Has anyone else had this with their Havanese and managed to come out the other side?

Thanks for any advice - I just needed to put this all down in writing.
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post #2 of 20 (permalink) Old 09-28-2017, 06:43 AM
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I don't have any experience with separation anxiety with my dog so I can't offer any advice. I am sure there are other forum members who can advise you. I just wanted to say I am sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed. Sleep deprivation is a horrible thing. I hope that you can get the help you need to get your dog over this so your family can be at peace, get some sleep , and be able to come and go from your home without Rollo freaking out. Hang in there and good luck!
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I think this is one of those times you probably need to call in a professional to work with you on the variety of issues you describe from sleeping to walking on leash. You mention that he has never been left alone so it is worth mentioning to any new puppy owners to start as soon as you bring them home on separation training with short departures etc Havanese don't like to be alone..they are companion dogs, but learn with steady training.

when he wakes up at 3, is it bathroom need or just restless?

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sounds like professional help might be needed. Let me know privately and I might be able to find someone for you.
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I wish I could give advice, my pup is the exact opposite he is so independent. When I first got my puppy I was concerned with this issue so I put many hours of research in and Music can help here is a list of Music Therapy For Your Dog with Anxiety Problems that I play for my puppy because he just enjoys it!. If you have a laptop just put it beside his crate and leave it playing to hopefully calm him.



<------This one is the entire playlist
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Sorry for your stress. I am sure you feel just awful.

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I'm sorry I can't be of any help and I hope all three of you find your way to calm and SLEEP soon.
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I am very sorry to hear about your struggles with Rollo. I agree that professional help is needed. And remember to give your dog plenty of exercise (but not too much) during the day so that he wants to sleep at night. Shama sleeps through the night in her ex pen in the dining room while we are in our bedroom down the hall. Her routine during the school year is being left in her pen for 10 hours each school day with a dog walker coming to see her at the mid-point. All that to say that dogs get used to the routine you give them. Hopefully baby steps will get you through the SA. There are lots of threads about SA on the forum. I've been listening to DuketheDog's music while typing this. It is very relaxing. Shama listens to classical MPR all day while we're at school.
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I am very sorry to hear about your struggles with Rollo. I agree that professional help is needed. And remember to give your dog plenty of exercise (but not too much) during the day so that he wants to sleep at night. Shama sleeps through the night in her ex pen in the dining room while we are in our bedroom down the hall. Her routine during the school year is being left in her pen for 10 hours each school day with a dog walker coming to see her at the mid-point. All that to say that dogs get used to the routine you give them. Hopefully baby steps will get you through the SA. There are lots of threads about SA on the forum. I've been listening to DuketheDog's music while typing this. It is very relaxing. Shama listens to classical MPR all day while we're at school.
Mine like music, too. Neil Young and James Taylor are Hav approved in my "old woman" household. It really calms them in the car.
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Sorry that you're having such a hard time with Rolo.

Sounds exactly like Teddy when he was a puppy.
He would bark continuous if not in my sight (or even when left alone for a few mins to use the bathroom!). Its illegal for dogs to bark here so we have to do what we can to keep him quiet.

Anyway, it got alot better once he got past 1.5 years old. he isn't so bad now although still a work in progress.

A trick i learnt when trying to manage his separation anxiety was not to make a fuss when leaving. just walk out the door and leave!
saying bye only made it worse and made him upset. Try not to feel bad as they can sense it and will react to that emotion. You're not doing anything wrong, not being cruel and not abandoning him so you have no need to feel sad. It gets easier with time.
If you can, take him jogging or for a walk before leaving so he is tired. preferably, walk out as he is sleeping!

leave him alone for a few mins and build up the time slowly.

Its hard to hear your furbaby barking and crying but you need to be strict and ignore it as much as possible (easier said than done, i Know!). Chances are, he knows it makes you sad and is using it to his advantage.

Teddy still sleeps between my fiance and I - and sits between us when we just want to cuddle and watch a good movie! Things are going to have to change after our wedding (possibly by crate training which I have been teaching him for some time now). As with Rolo, it will take time to get there.

Be patient and consistent and things will get easier!
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