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I'm afraid I don't have much advice, just questions. Have you tried the technique of putting her in her crate and leaving her for a minute, then 2 then 3... though it sounds like it might be even slower - put her in her crate and see how far away from it you can go (even in the same room), letting her out when she's quiet, then moving further away, then out of the room (for a minute/ 2 each time), and expanding it. I've heard that works really well for some people.
My Perry has anxiety but it's slightly less about separation (though it was in the beginning, but he's gotten over being left alone in his crate - and he was never like yours) - he would bark an carry on but finally over time got over it - and it's more about change and excitement (people coming over, going for a drive, etc.) He also vomits a lot, but again, not in his crate because I've left him. I haven't found an anti-anxiety med that helps with this. He also knows when I shift on the couch to jump up to follow me and I had to put his crate in the bedroom when we first got him because even being in the living room was too far away.
Part of his comfort level in being left alone has to do with routine - he's now fine going into his crate at 7 in the morning when I leave for work, at 4 when my housekeeper puts him in before she leaves, and at 10 when I put him in for the night. He's not happy about it but doesn't act out when I put him in at odd times at home but will bark and carry on if I put him in (off schedule, etc) in a hotel or at my Mom's house when we're in the US. I don't know with your schedule if you can create some sort of schedule for her that makes her more comfortable?
On his vomiting, he does it all the time in the car and sometimes in the house - so I'm still trying to figure out the combinations (car I think is a combination of getting car sick plus anxiety, in the house it's sometimes excitement - running around plus having just drank a lot of water but sometimes it's hours after he ate and I think it's more anxiety related, etc.)