Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Virginia Beach, VA
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This happened to me, something very similar. It was a few times into crate training and Gucci bloodied herself up trying to get out of the crate. I know how wrecked and painful it is to see this and feel this, but it is not your fault and you certainly are not a failure in ANY way.
After throwing the cage outside and vowing to never inflict that suffering on her again, I moved her to the xpen and kept working on new ways to help comfort her while I was gone, dirty t-shirts and pillows seemed to work the best, she liked when I would bring one of my pillows down off the bed for her, and just keep trying and don't give up. Leave 3-4 times a day for 5-10 minutes and just walk down the street, or go listen to a song on the radio in your car and come back in, lots of little short trips work, I think...they start to realize that you are coming back.
I'm really sorry you had to go through this, I was wrecked when I came home and saw this and thought I was the worst puppy mom in the whole wide world (gosh, I tear up even thinking about it now...) but she has gotten SO much better, they do get better. SA is tough, but you can conquer it and build reassurance and comfort in them.