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Disaster today :(

Ok, so I came home at lunch today, took Alfie out and everything was fine. I couldn't calm him down before I left for work but I did give him another Kong.
Well, I came home and there was blood EVERYWHERE. The door, the walls, the bed, the curtain, the windowsill- the carpet. It was awful. Alfie abraded his paw pads from scratching at the door so hard. Back off to the vet we went. They cleaned up his paws and told me to not let him scratch anymore (duh)! I am still crying over this. I do have him sitting quietly in the crate next to me (yeah, yay for crate training), and a friend of mine is on his way over to doggysit so I can run and pick up the ex-pen from the groomer.
Tonight's agenda: working on ex-pen training so I can leave him in it tomorrow. I really failed this time. I couldn't protect him or save him or prevent him from hurting himself. This is an awful feeling and I really hope this is rock bottom for us :cray: I don't think either one of us can take much more of this.
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get in touch with your behaviorist. You've got to make him safe somehow. Have you thought of day care.? You're simply not at the stage where you can leave him for too long.

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You are not a failure! You are doing the best you can.
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I just wanted to also offer support and encouragement. You are really trying to do right by Alfie and you are to be commended for this.

I dont really have any practical suggestions since I am also very new to having a Havanese (my current Havanese is my first) except to echo getting in touch with your trainer. And also to echo if there is anybody who can either come by to puppy sit or maybe you can drop Alfie off at a family member's house or friend who maybe can watch him during the day. My parents come over twice a week when I am at work (I work part time and hubby works full time) and they puppy sit and just stay at my house for the day. I make it worth their while because I will cook healthy gourmet foods for them for those days LOL. They are now very attached to Dionna and Dionna loves them, too. Even a lonely neighbor who may be homebound i.e. a senior citizen but who has dog experience may be an option. I am sure you have thought of these things and I am just mentioning them as suggestions.

The main purpose of my response is to commend you and to offer hugs and support! I am rooting for you and Alfie

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I just wanted to also offer support and encouragement. You are really trying to do right by Alfie and you are to be commended for this.

I dont really have any practical suggestions since I am also very new to having a Havanese (my current Havanese is my first) except to echo getting in touch with your trainer. And also to echo if there is anybody who can either come by to puppy sit or maybe you can drop Alfie off at a family member's house or friend who maybe can watch him during the day. My parents come over twice a week when I am at work (I work part time and hubby works full time) and they puppy sit and just stay at my house for the day. I make it worth their while because I will cook healthy gourmet foods for them for those days LOL. They are now very attached to Dionna and Dionna loves them, too. Even a lonely neighbor who may be homebound i.e. a senior citizen but who has dog experience may be an option. I am sure you have thought of these things and I am just mentioning them as suggestions.

The main purpose of my response is to commend you and to offer hugs and support! I am rooting for you and Alfie

andra
great advice Andra.

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I'm sorry you're having so much trouble. You're an angel for taking Alfie in to your home and I know you're doing everything you can to help him.

Hang in there, I hope you find a solution soon.

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you are not a failure and I commend you on your efforts to make him as comfortable as possible in your absence. I have a foster hav right now that does not like being left alone, even though I have my own dog in the same room with him. He completely freaks in the crate (even though he sleeps in one at the foot of my bed with no problem) so I have him in an ex-pen with a small crate that I keep open for him. He still does not like being left behind but he's not as stressed out and goes in his crate often. On the other hand, my own hav will be stressed if I leave her and she's not in her crate. She feels very safe there while we are not home. Of course, this is easier since I do not work and the longest they are crated or confined is between 2 and 3 hours. Best of luck to you and your little guy.
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This happened to me, something very similar. It was a few times into crate training and Gucci bloodied herself up trying to get out of the crate. I know how wrecked and painful it is to see this and feel this, but it is not your fault and you certainly are not a failure in ANY way.

After throwing the cage outside and vowing to never inflict that suffering on her again, I moved her to the xpen and kept working on new ways to help comfort her while I was gone, dirty t-shirts and pillows seemed to work the best, she liked when I would bring one of my pillows down off the bed for her, and just keep trying and don't give up. Leave 3-4 times a day for 5-10 minutes and just walk down the street, or go listen to a song on the radio in your car and come back in, lots of little short trips work, I think...they start to realize that you are coming back.

I'm really sorry you had to go through this, I was wrecked when I came home and saw this and thought I was the worst puppy mom in the whole wide world (gosh, I tear up even thinking about it now...) but she has gotten SO much better, they do get better. SA is tough, but you can conquer it and build reassurance and comfort in them.

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You are not a failure. It must have be awful coming home and seeing all the blood. There are some very good suggestions here. Kara's suggestions about personal object to comfort Buzzy are really great and so is leaving for 5 mins at a time. Sometimes it is kinder to leave the dog in a small space like a crate or xpen. All dogs are different and you did not cause Buzzy's problems he came with them. You are now his future and starting all over with a rescue dog is sometimes very difficult. It takes time...the shows on tv make it look so easy...it is not. Hugs..Remember it takes time.

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