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worst adoption ever?

We took Jerry to his vet for his dental check up and got bad news. He has gum disease and many rotten/loose teeth which need to be extracted, she stopped counting after awhile and just said multiple extractions. Poor little guy is probably living with constant tooth ache which I can't imagine. She also found a stage 1-2 heart murmur and suggested a cardiologist before we do the neuter or tooth extraction to make sure he is healthy enough for anesthesia. Of course none of this was caught when we did the adoption checkup. All this on top of the behavior issues that need a doggy behavior specialist to resolve. All I wanted was a little dog to enjoy in my retirement to sit in my lap, go for walks and grow old with me and i really connected with Jerry when I met him but I was completely unprepared for this nightmare.

Do any of you have experience of overcoming similar issues with an older adoptee? Please share some encouraging stories as I am about out of hope.
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I love Jerry. He looks just like my Kosmo. I just want to say how sorry I am that you had such a distressing check up. I wish with all my heart you didn't have to face these challenges.

I just want to add that: in my currently enjoyed rich and full life that any time I planned for similar to "a sweet little dog to sit on my lap", I found challenge instead.

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Thanks Marni. He is a sweet loving dog and I am crazy about him. Just overwhelmed by problems coming at us from all directions at once.
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Sorry for the challenges you are facing with Jerry. I can understand your frustration.
I faced many challenges with Ditto as a puppy and young adult when I adopted him 12 years ago.At the time I knew very little about buying a puppy from a reputable breeder. All I can say is it was all worth it. He is my heart, the love of my life and the best friend and companion ever. Wish you all the best with Jerry.
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I'm very sorry to hear you and Jerry have some problems to face. He will feel lot's better once those bad teeth are out. My friend adopted an older dog and it had to have all but two teeth removed. He's eats everything and is doing just great! My first Havanese had a heart murmur and lived to be 15 years old. Hoping your little one makes a quick recovery after his dental work. You and Jerry will be in my thoughts.

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I am sorry for everything that you are facing with Jerry. As you tackle each obstacle you face and start to feel frustrated, try to remember how much Jerry needs you. Also keep in mind that there are people who have paid top dollar for dogs from reputable breeders that end up with puppies they love who are also facing challenges, both health and behavioral. I wish you all the best with Jerry and hope that he lives a long and happy life with you!

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Iím so sorry for what you are going through with Jerry. Please try to take a deep breath and tell yourself it will all work out. What has already happened canít be undone so deal with his teeth. Little dogs frequently have dental issues if they are not kept up with so losing teeth is sadly not all that uncommon, they can still live a good life. Once the dental is done he is likely going to feel so much better. As for the heart murmur, my Apollo was diagnosed with a murmur when he was just a puppy. My vet said it might go away, it didnít, but it didnít get much worse either. When he was a senior it progressed from a stage 1 to a stage 2 confirmed by a cardiologist. He never had to take medication, we tracked his resting respiration rate on an app called Cardalis. I thought it would be the thing that eventually took him from us but it wasnít. He lived to be almost 14.

Hang in there with Jerry, it sounds like it might not be what you planned on but you are likely a godsend to this little dog. I hope it all works out.
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take one issue at a time, with the health issues first, Hugs

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Oh I'm so sorry for all the health issues. Maybe the sore teeth were contributing to behavior issues as well. As Dave said, just take one problem at a time and at some point, all the issues will be resolved or better.
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The good news is Jerry will have nice smelling breath . Their are so many different health issues with any dog . I've spent more on Vet bills than I can afford . I don't know what Jerrys behavioral issues are or his age . I bet he too wants to just feel loved and hang out on your lap. Baby steps and consistency. I raised two from Baby's and even though I feel I was a great mom mine still have some issues .Hang in their Jerry needs you.
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