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Sammy will be 3 in Sept. We have just simply fallen head over heals in love with him and he with us. He is a real velcro baby, but we don't mind, we are both retired and home with him.

His groomer is also a Havanese Breeder and we fell in love with one of her last litter. Mikey is black and white and 14 weeks old. We brought him home two weeks ago.

Sammy is not adjusting well. If we tell Mikey no, Sammy runs to the other room. We never speak harshly to Sammy, so he doesn't understand. He is now beginning to act withdrawn. My husband and I are both sick about this. We are giving him extra attention and in fact, I feel guilty for ignoring Mikey more than Sammy. They both see the Vet on Tues.

Any suggestions to help Sammy through this. We feel he is saying, I am tired of this puppy, when are you taking him home...

Thank you for any help.
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post #2 of 6 (permalink) Old 11-14-2010, 07:05 PM
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So many of us go through this. I remember each time I added the new one, saying to myself at one point during those first few weeks, "was I out of my mind to do this?" The new one always caused some angst to the older and established dog. Like a child when you bring a new baby into the home, it just takes time.

One day, probably in the very near future, you'll see them start to interact and become a family. I think you're doing everything right. Just understand it's a process, not an overnight adjustment.

I'm sure you'll get other great advice here. I'll be watching for updates from you. I really feel your pain, but I can almost promise you it will get better.

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If only my older dog would ignore our new pup....

Nessie, our Aussie, loathes Jack. She will be 4 in Feb. Jack is 16 weeks. Nessie is so jealous and has guarding issues. Given a chance she would attack Jack. sigh... Our problem, not yours.

Before we brought Jack home, I consulted a trainer in a private lesson. She gave me all sorts of ways to deal with them. They are working but it is a very slow process.

I would have a trainer come to your home and give you some hints. It might be as simple as you sitting on the floor and giving Sammy and Mikey tons of treats together.

From what I have seen and read, most older dogs aren't thrilled with puppies. It gets better as the puppies get older. All that youthful exuberance is tiring.

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I could be mistaken, but I think your breeder may be MiG's.
Don't worry, they will acclimate. Pixie despised MiG first. Now she will let him know when she's ready to like him (for the moment). The dynamic is absolutely hysterical-she is the big sister and he is the pesty little brother. I do catch them "kissing" each other though. They have worked it out and I'm sure your two will also.

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They will work it out between the two of them!! It is the same, each time I brought a new pup home, as when I bring an HRI foster home! It takes all my guys a while to establish who is in charge, who is second in charge, and who just does not care !!
I would try to not reprimand the older one in front of the other, as it sounds like the baby is thinking you are reprimanding him. ? -
They will do fine, once they have enough time to figure each other out!! I promise!

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I agree with everyone that sammy and mikey will work it out. But one think I want to add is it is also really important to make some alone time for Sammy. Can you take him for a walk without Mikey?

Some may not agree with this.... but were advised to give our first dog Jasper, senior status by acknowledging his first when you come home and feeding him first. It seemed to get as through the difficult new puppy stage... But we may have created an entitled little prince.

It will get better. When puppy Cash home, I wanted to send him back Jasper was so out or sorts. I called it post pupdom depression. But they did work it out and they love each other and we love both of them....so hang in there.




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