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Crying my eyes out - so disappointed

Hi all. I have been waiting 12 weeks for Bella and she was due to come home this Thursday. I just now got a call from the breeder that she just got back from the vet and Bella has a serious heart murmur. She doesn't want to send her.

I'm devastated. I have everything ready...her crate, her toys...took time off from work to be with her...

She offered me some other pups (male) but they just won't be the same. Or I can wait for another litter and who knows when that will be. I fell in love with her...

It took me so long to find a reputable breeder who had puppies. I wouldn't know where to start again. Can anyone help?
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I am so sorry this is happening. I can understand how you are feeling. It's good to know that the breeder is a responsible person, tell you the truth and won't send a puppy with a health problem.
Why don't you try to think about one of the male puppies? I am sure you will fall in love really fast. These puppies are to die for and we love them all. Many people think that girls love you but males adore you so maybe this is what is for you... I hope you feel better soon.


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I am so sorry to read of what happened. Your breeder sounds like one who truly has the best interests of her puppies at heart. I know it must be terribly disappointing, but hearing how this breeder is handling this situation - not wanting to send a sick puppy - like Teresita also suggested - once your sorrow and disappointment subsides a bit - possibly you may give one of the males consideration? They really are wonderful. Again, I am sorry this hasn't worked out the way you had planned.

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I'm so sorry too. The breeder is responsible not giving you a puppy with a serious heart murmur.
After the shock and disappointment lessen some, why not, as others have said, consider one of the males. I have 2 males and one female and the males are extremely loving.
I am sure the breeder will pick a special lil guy for you and you won't have to wait.. I wish you the best in your decision.

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I have to agree with the others. Your breeder was acting responsibly, not sending Bella to you. I know you're devastated but I would give some thought to one of the males. There just might be another one that has your name imprinted on it's heart. Having two boys and a girl, if I were to get another, it would probably be a boy.

Sending cyber hugs in your direction.

I know you can't see it now, but your breeder may have saved you from a lot of expense and heartbreak down the road. Sending loving thoughts in Bella's direction too.

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Okay I understand, you have all the cute little girl clothes, bows, everything in pink and a boy just does not fit into your plans. Don't rush to a male just because he is available right now. You will always want that little girl. Either go ahead and wait longer to get the little girl from another litter, or make up your mind you will take the boy now and get a girl later..but don't rule out the girl completely since you have your heart set on a girl. I personally would stick with that breeder if she will be having another litter as you know she will be honest with you. And many dogs do have heart murmurs. Just know there is a reason for everything.

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I don't have any experiences similar to yours, but I can tell you that my little guy is my baby- and he will let everyone around him know I am his mommy. He is really wonderful... and that's all I can offer you since I haven't had any girls.
BUt I agree with everyone else- the breeder is doing the responsible thing. Consider a male, and if you really don't want one, then just wait. This little girl wasn't meant to be, but the right one will come along.
Good luck!
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I can only sympathize with how hard this must be for you. To have your heart set on Bella only to find out she's sick. The breeder is being very responsible in the matter by not sending you a dog that may become very sick over time. It's likely she's saving you from even greater heart break down the road.

I love my boy. Everyone who meets him falls in love. He's the sweetest most loving little guy. Maybe you can bring yourself to change your expectations - change Bella to Belamy (a play on the french "belle ami" for "best friend") and consider a boy? Best of luck with whatever you decide.
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I do like males, but some like to dress up the little girls and so, since you were all prepared and ready for the little girl, I really think a male would be a disappointment to you at this time, of course that is for you to decide. I think it is not an argument of which is best female or male but which you have/had your heart set on. JMHO

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Hi all. I have been waiting 12 weeks for Bella and she was due to come home this Thursday. I just now got a call from the breeder that she just got back from the vet and Bella has a serious heart murmur. She doesn't want to send her.

I'm devastated. I have everything ready...her crate, her toys...took time off from work to be with her...

She offered me some other pups (male) but they just won't be the same. Or I can wait for another litter and who knows when that will be. I fell in love with her...

It took me so long to find a reputable breeder who had puppies. I wouldn't know where to start again. Can anyone help?
I think that knowing your breeder is so honest and has her puppies checked I would go with one of the males. From what I have read they are more loving than some of the females. You know us females are very independant! Good luck and sorry for your disappointment. Linda & Sasha

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