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post #1 of 11 (permalink) Old 03-07-2019, 11:26 PM Thread Starter
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Cancer again 😞

I have 2 havanese girls. A 15 year old and a 14 year old that will be 15 in 2 months. The 14 year old has cancer again. She had multiple places removed the year I adopted her (6 years ago and that went fine) and then 2 years ago she had cancer begin growing around where she goes pee at. It went up to her rectum and down towards her nipple line. The surgery was awful on her. Even with pain meds, she shook terrible and couldn't rest, she cried and our whole house cried with her through her recovery. It was something I'll never forget. However, she recovered and all was well... Until now... It's back. I love my girl more than I can put in words and I can't imagine life without her, but I'm not sure if we should do another surgery. This one will be deeper cuts than the last. I just don't know what to do. She's perfectly happy, doesn't hurt, has no difficulties... the growths are just there. I know no one can tell me what to do, but I would really appreciate any loving advice anyone is willing to give. Is it ok to do nothing and just let her be or should I put her through another surgery?
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I am so sorry for your girl having the cancer return. I am also so sorry for you being in this situation where tough choices have to be made. I think that after discussing all of the options for treatment, and possible outcomes for recovery and quality of life, it will be up to you to decide what is best for your girl. You may decide that doing nothing is the way to go as it sounds like her quality of life is good right now. These decisions are never easy. Just remember that you love and know your girl the best. I am sure that whatever you decide, you will have her best interest at heart.



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I'm so sorry. We just lost my daughter's dog to cancer this week. Her cancer was different, so I'm not sure if I can give you good advice, but I can understand the hell of making a decision. For Daffney, the cancer was multiple hemangiomas on the liver and blood in her abdomen. It was already too late. The only thing we didn't know what when. Daffney felt fine for another three days, then faltered. During those four days, we gave her everything she'd ever wanted--love, filet mignon, doughnuts, love, chocolate, and the love of many family members and friends. She tried a lot of new things and saw a lot of her old people. It was all we could do and the best for her. My daughter and I talked about this an hour ago. She said, "I wish we'd known sooner. We could have taken her more places." If you do decide to go without surgery, or even if you do, that's my suggestion. Take her anywhere you think she'd like and you can go, give her all the love you have, and cherish every minute. And in that time frame, take care of yourself. It's pure hell for us, but that's all your dog wants--happiness and you.

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I am so sorry to hear this. What a difficult situation. I will pray that you will be led to make the right decision.
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I am so sorry. Cancer is just heartbreaking news and you have dealt with it more than you should have to. I don’t think any of us can put ourselves into you head and tell you what you should do, but getting as much information as possible is going to help with your decision. The fact that you have been through this before gives you a knowledge most wouldn’t have and that is important. You are making this decision not just for you, but for your precious girl. Your decision should ultimately be what is best for her. I feel so much for you and send you all my strength to get through this. Hugs.







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I'm so sorry to read your post. Does your vet think surgery would be successful? For how long? It's a hard decision. 15 years old is a senior dog I believe. Maybe managing any pain and giving lots of love is the answer. Only you know. I heart aches for the decision you have to make. Please let us know how you and your loved dog is doing.



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Thank you so much for all for your kind replies. I'm definitely taking the advice to take her places and really enjoy the time i have with her... Showing her I'm happy and not sad.

Surgery is an option, but vet says it is probably best to not put her through it because it appears to be more widespread this time. Surgery might buy time, but probably won't remove all the cancer and would be very hard on her. Because the last surgery was so hard, I will probably just let her enjoy the life she has left. My head says follow the facts and don't do the surgery. My heart says do the surgery and save her no matter what! But I don't think that's fair to her and I don't believe it will really save her anyway. 😞

On a positive note...I sure love this girl!! She's the best dog I've ever had. Such a little lady! A real gentle soul. 🙂 I'm so thankful for every day of her life... No matter how many days there are.
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Oh Jennifer, such a hard decision. Beyond hard, gut wrenching, but I commend your brave choice and doing what would be best for your sweet girl even though it means having to face saying goodbye. I think you are doing the most unselfish, kind thing for her and I know you will spoil her every day. Please post some pictures for us here we would love to see her and your other Hav as well and let us know their names.







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We call her Butterbean. I know that sounds like a crazy name, but over the years, it became our term of endearment for her. Her sister is Winnie. They have very different personalities, but they are inseparable. We also have a 6 month old boy, Tobias. Knowing our girls were getting older we went ahead and got a puppy so he could learn their behaviors. Winnie is still teaching him manners sometimes, but they all get along pretty well now. 😊 Butterbean and Winnie were adopted as adults, but I feel like we've had them always. Winnie is more attached to my daughter. Butterbean is my shadow. And would you believe she howls if she feels I haven't given her enough attention!! It's the funniest thing! Like I said before, she's such a gentle little lady and so prissy all the time... And then to see her howl !!! I laugh out loud every time!
I've been trying to post a picture of her and it keeps saying it's not the right size. I did put her as my Avatar though so you can see her.

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You know in your heart that you made the right decision for your precious girl. A horribly hard decision but a gift for Butterbean.



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