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Question Boy or Girl Havanese Love or In Love With You

Is it true that male havanese are IN love with you, while female havanese just love you? I talked to a breeder and she said that the males are more in love with you and want to be by your side and right by you. She also said that the female havanese love you but they don't always want to be near you or pet by you. They love you, but aren't IN love with you. Is this true? And does this mean that a boy could be more susceptible to developing separation anxiety?
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Every Havanese (every dog) has its own personality. I would say, IN GENERAL. The girls are a BIT more opinionated and intense than the boys, especially if they are intact. What I have seen (again, this is a generality, there are individuals who do not fit this) is that boys tend to be “equal oportunity lovers” and love EVERYONE! All the time! The girls I know are mostly polite to people in general, and love all the family members, but seem more likely to make an intense bond with a particular family member.

In our family, Kodi loves everyone, and at times I suspect he would happily leave with the mail man. Pixel certainly loves the whole family, but is “Daddy’s girl”, and if he’s home, is ON him. Likewise, Panda is very outgoing and friendly, but is usually right at my feet.
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I’m wondering what would happen if we added a girl later on. Oliver loves everyone but I am definitely his person. As for following around everywhere and being prone to separation anxiety, I think that’s true. Oliver has gotten used to (thank god) being left home for a few hours but I think the breed tends to need their people in general. He cries for a few minutes but I’ll tell him, go take a nap, and he’ll go to his bed and lay down. Unfortunately he still cries when I leave him with my hubby and kids. They say he calms down in a few minutes.

If a breeder tells you a female will be more likely to be ok with being alone a lot of the time, I’d run. But we actually had issues with Oliver being aggressive to people who came near me. He’s over that, but still if I’m hugging one of my kids or my husband, he’ll jump over to snuggle up to me too. Like, I’m getting in on cuddle time too! This is a slighter version of resource guarding, so we’re careful to ignore that behavior and not reinforce it because it’s cute or whatever. He follows me to the bathroom and scratches on the door. Etc. This could just be his temperament though.

If we get another dog in a couple of years, my bigger concern is what gender to get that will work best with him. He’s getting neutered in a couple of weeks (he’s one) and trainer thinks this might mellow his guarding of me even more. I’m hoping his whining when I leave will even out as he gets older. Like with toddlers lol.
I personally would go with the temperament based on the dog not the gender. As a tiny puppy I couldn’t have predicted his dependence on me, and probably wouldn’t have chosen it. Next dog, EVERYONE takes care of, cleans up after, etc. whoever feeds and cares for the puppy is destined to be followed everywhere. More important to me is the best bet for gender in adding a dog.
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As a tiny puppy I couldn’t have predicted his dependence on me, and probably wouldn’t have chosen it. Next dog, EVERYONE takes care of, cleans up after, etc. whoever feeds and cares for the puppy is destined to be followed everywhere.
Although, I have ALWAYS been the main care-giver for our dogs, and did ALL of Pixel's early training... And she STILL glommed onto Dave as "her" human. She loves me too... I am a good, healthy "second" in her life. But Daddy comes first! LOL! She won't even come up to bed with me at night until HE comes up.


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Although, I have ALWAYS been the main care-giver for our dogs, and did ALL of Pixel's early training... And she STILL glommed onto Dave as "her" human. She loves me too... I am a good, healthy "second" in her life. But Daddy comes first! LOL! She won't even come up to bed with me at night until HE comes up.

SAME. He is great with Daddy, especially for playing. But he gets in bed with me. When I get up at night he follows me. If he's really tired he waits on the stairs. And he barks when anyone comes in our room at night other than me. Which is very odd, because you'd think he's barking because he can't see who it is and he'd do it to me, too. But he just knows when I walk in. Plus it's a playful thing with DH. He gives him a little bark, DH acts like his feelings are hurt, and he does it again. Still, in bed he switches between cuddling with me and DH. So the two of them are close, too. In different ways.
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Although, I have ALWAYS been the main care-giver for our dogs, and did ALL of Pixel's early training... And she STILL glommed onto Dave as "her" human. She loves me too... I am a good, healthy "second" in her life. But Daddy comes first! LOL! She won't even come up to bed with me at night until HE comes up.
This sounds exactly like our family. My wife wasn't exactly keen on getting Skye. I feed him, take him for his daily or twice daily walks, went through puppy classes and CGC class with him, do his daily grooming, and so on and so forth. Skye is still HER dog. Oh, he loves me for sure. But he definitely prefers to be with her.

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Most dogs tend to most-love the person who feeds and takes care of them. An ol' saying....The way to a mans heart is food, similarly works with dog's too. All the dogs before our Havanese loved and preferred me because I fed and took care of them.

Although, Patti seems to want to be with me more as I'm the one who feeds and tends to her daily hair care, she loves everyone in the family. Patti likes to sleep nestled next to Daddy at night. Patti goes to our daughter's office and sleeps under her desk while she works, or jumps into bed with her in the mornings and sometimes wants to sleep there during the day. When the grandson's come home from school, she's very excited and wants to be with them. And, I often find her sleeping next to Lucy (the Golden-doodle) in another room.

All-in-All... this is the most social dog I've every had. She makes everyone feel like they're Number One, as she is all wiggles, tail wagging and kisses when them come home and they all want to love on her, too.

I've never owned a male dog.
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My daughter's friend has a male Havanese (I'm trying to get her mom to bring the dog over for a playdate too lol) right around Oliver's age. He has a totally different personality-- not cuddly, doesn't like to sit next to his people on the couch, mostly loves the daughter but is polite to everyone. He's not needy either, which is a benefit. He's generally more reserved. Of course my 9 yr old daughter adds, "They aren't having the mat problem. Maybe he mom is better at combing than you are." LOL kids. I spend HOURS a day on this dog's hair!
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Most dogs tend to most-love the person who feeds and takes care of them. An ol' saying....The way to a mans heart is food, similarly works with dog's too. All the dogs before our Havanese loved and preferred me because I fed and took care of them.

Although, Patti seems to want to be with me more as I'm the one who feeds and tends to her daily hair care, she loves everyone in the family. Patti likes to sleep nestled next to Daddy at night. Patti goes to our daughter's office and sleeps under her desk while she works, or jumps into bed with her in the mornings and sometimes wants to sleep there during the day. When the grandson's come home from school, she's very excited and wants to be with them. And, I often find her sleeping next to Lucy (the Golden-doodle) in another room.

All-in-All... this is the most social dog I've every had. She makes everyone feel like they're Number One, as she is all wiggles, tail wagging and kisses when them come home and they all want to love on her, too.

I've never owned a male dog.
Sounds like exactly what a Havanese should be.


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