Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: North Carolina
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Oh Suzy, I am so sorry to read about your Dad. It sounds like he has CHF, it can be treated for many years but in the end the heart is just too tired to work. It is not a painful death and usually they just go to sleep. You are right, it is harder on the ones left behind.
I am remarried after being a widow, my late DH was very sick with heart problems the last 5 yrs of this life. Truth be told 6 months after our marriage he had a massive heart attack and was left with only 25% of function. In the last 5 yrs of his life he had many mini strokes, it affected the frontal lobe of his brain, 1 month before he died he had a massive stroke, he did not die and they though he would recover some what. He did not because the damage was happening for a two week period before it showed up on a CT scan, the right side of his brain was gone. The reason I am telling you this is because, I use to do risk management, this means I know lots of medical stuff (stuff most people need never know). When they came to talk to me about long term care or what we could do, they were very suprised and I think it took a load of the doctor. I did not take his feeding tube away or take away the oxgen, he could only have his reg. drugs that happened before the stroke, no new drugs and no increase of drugs, he just needed to be comfortable. He died of CHF 1 and a half days after being transfered to a rest home and that talk. He had a very peaceful death. He would have never woke up.
I know it is hard to say good bye and hard to be strong. It is the ones left behind who grieve, he is going on a journey, and it is not your time. He will always be with you. Hugs
Robbie, Boo Boo, Yogi, and Misty's human.
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