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help with new 10mo; shy

We just brought home an almost 10mo male Havanese 2 days ago. He is very sweet, but very quiet and shy. I suspect the pup was socialized with the other dogs, but not much with people. When we picked him up he was running and alert, but seemed more attached to the dogs than the breeder (wouldn't "come" to her when she called but would follow her larger dog).

We've been mainly leaving him alone to adjust. He's just starting to have any interest exploring...or walking much. He doesn't act really scared (no shaking, no growling or nipping, no accidents in the house, doesn't try to move away from us, is happy to sit near us, be pet), but seems really submissive. He's wary, but will eat chicken bits from our hands and I use that to get him to walk inside after being out (when he's done going potty, he comes with paws on the back door, but will tend to step back when we open it). In the evening I'll put him in my lap or next to us and he relaxes and seems content. But otherwise, he's not walking around much when he's indoors. I have his crate in an exercise pen in the living room. He'll come out of his crate to lay on the carpet, but that's about it.

Any experience with bringing a shy, older pup home? Any advice? I appreciate the stress and change he's experiencing, but will he warm up eventually? We have kids, so I am hoping for a dog that will eventually be more playful. The kids are being very good and patient, leaving him alone. I just don't know if this is "normal" or an indicator we'll have trouble down the line.

Advice and encouragement appreciated!
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It takes more than two days for a pup (especially an older one) to adjust to his new surroundings. Milo was 5 1/2 months old when I got him and he was very remote, preferring to just lie down on his own, or occasionally follow me around. Think about it from his point of view. He's been taken to a foreign land, with strangers speaking a foreign language. Give him a little while and you just might long for the days when he lay around quietly. JK, but you should see a marked difference in him as he feels more at home.

Try not to panic. What you're describing sounds perfectly normal.

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To add to what Geri said, it's very good that he's willing to take goodies from you. A REALLY stressed dog won't eat. Give him some time, and I'm sure he'll settle in and interact with you more!


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Yes, I agree, a few days isn't enough for any of you to adjust to the changes. I think relationships and bonds between dogs and people don't happen overnight, they do take awhile to build trust and habit, and he seems to be showing good signs of trusting you by taking treats. 10 months old is a bit of a tween stage for Havs, so challenging enough in themselves without major adjustments like being rehomed

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One of the many great things about Havs is that they are basically bred to play. Unless something is very wrong with him -- and it doesn't sound that way -- he will warm up and play. He'll always have his own personality, and that may be more cautious than other dogs, but I can't imagine that he won't play with folks (and kids) he trusts.
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I adopted Cooper when he was about a year old. He was extremely shy. We did just like you are doing. We gave him his space and allowed him to approach us in his own time. I sat or laid on the floor and didn't look at him. He would come up and sniff my hair and dash off. We've had him two years now. He still startles easily and shies away at fast movements. We have people in our house OFTEN. He mostly stays in the background, never letting me out of his sight, but he has warmed up tremendously for some women friends. However, when we are alone, he is perfectly comfortable. He plops himself in my lap on top of computers, books, magazines, no matter what. lol

I'm so glad He has someone patient and loving like you. He will reward you for years for your kindness.

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We adopted Tessa when she was 4 1/2 months old. Originally, because of her beautiful colouring, the breeder wanted us to let her have one litter, but she was so shy, the breeder decided not to because she felt she didn't want that personality trait in her line. We have a 5 1/2 year old Hav also, so I think that helped Tessa settle in our house more quickly.

However, Tessa is still very shy with almost everyone expect my husband and I and my sister and her husband, two people she sees very frequently. She is very loving and playful with us, but will hide when anyone new comes to the house. I think just show some patience and you will have to realize that your pup may always be shy with people he doesn't know and you will have to accept his shyness. We knew when we brought Tessa home that this would be an ongoing thing with her, the breeder warned us about it, but she is a great pup, loves to play with us and is very affectionate so her shyness with others isn't really an issue for us.

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We just brought home an almost 10mo male Havanese 2 days ago. He is very sweet, but very quiet and shy. I suspect the pup was socialized with the other dogs, but not much with people. When we picked him up he was running and alert, but seemed more attached to the dogs than the breeder (wouldn't "come" to her when she called but would follow her larger dog).

We've been mainly leaving him alone to adjust. He's just starting to have any interest exploring...or walking much. He doesn't act really scared (no shaking, no growling or nipping, no accidents in the house, doesn't try to move away from us, is happy to sit near us, be pet), but seems really submissive. He's wary, but will eat chicken bits from our hands and I use that to get him to walk inside after being out (when he's done going potty, he comes with paws on the back door, but will tend to step back when we open it). In the evening I'll put him in my lap or next to us and he relaxes and seems content. But otherwise, he's not walking around much when he's indoors. I have his crate in an exercise pen in the living room. He'll come out of his crate to lay on the carpet, but that's about it.

Any experience with bringing a shy, older pup home? Any advice? I appreciate the stress and change he's experiencing, but will he warm up eventually? We have kids, so I am hoping for a dog that will eventually be more playful. The kids are being very good and patient, leaving him alone. I just don't know if this is "normal" or an indicator we'll have trouble down the line.

Advice and encouragement appreciated!
If you think of all the questions you are having about your puppy, just turn it around and think of all the questions he must be having about you!
Seriously, his little world has changed drastically and he really is wondering about his new home, the people and all the changes in his little life...put yourself in his paws and try to imagine what he must be thinking....if you do this, I think you will see it will take a while for both of you to adjust! It will be fun, just be patient.

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I think he sounds normal. I got my Pip the weekend he was returned to his breeder. When he got to our house, the third in a matter of days, he just barked at the other dogs. He adjusted very quickly.

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I think he sounds as if he is doing very well.As others have said it is very early days,and it is great that he is taking treats from you,also it is good just to lie on the floor and ignore him, letting him come to you in his own time.Gently does it!Once he has adjusted to his new home, have calm friends come over,who also just ignore him,gradually he will see that they are not a threat to him,and if he approaches them,let them offer him a titbit.One of our Havs tends to keep a low profile when friends are around,it's no bad thing,as not everyone is a dog lover!

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