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Socializing with Big Dogs

Hi everyone! I am pretty new to the forums (ok, I have been lurking and gleaning as much advice as possible on everything from potty training to feeding) but I need some advice on socializing. Finn is my very first dog and I love him to bits. He is 7 months old.

Our neighborhood is super dog friendly. Round about 4pm every afternoon, all the dog parents bring their babies out to the green belt areas to play off-leash. There is a mix of big and small dogs and everyone is very friendly.

The problem is one beautiful 18 month old Golden retriever who thinks our Finn looks like a bunny and wants to chase and nip him. The first time we came out he scared my figurative pants off, charging me when Finn was in my arms and nearly knocking me down. Today, it happened again, the dog was actually on leash but tore away from his mama to get at Finn. I picked him up and the dog nipped my arm, didn't break the skin but I have a scrape and I think a bruise by morning.

Do I keep going out to the dog party hoping that this dog will get used to Finn and leave him be? Or does this sound just too dangerous? Thanks for any advice!
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sounds dangerous for both you and Finn. I would be having a serious conversation with the owner. Does he do this with all other dogs and owners, or just you guys?

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The owner knows the dog is out of control, but is a caretaker for a husband with cancer and feels powerless to do anything about it. She says the dog was like this with a little dachshund/terrier mix but now leaves him alone (maybe because Finn is so attackable?)

I do feel bad for the owner, she seems overwhelmed.
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Sounds like the problem is with the golden. Maybe it's not the best interest for the golden to be there when the owner/handler knows he/she cannot control it.

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what is it with some golden retrievers??? i stay away from them because some of our interactions have not been so positive. my bil and sister's dogs were attacked by a golden. they were both on a neighborhood walk on leash. one of my sister's dogs is a senior lab and the other is a rotweiller mix. the attack made them fear aggressive. sounds like the golden has a strong prey drive on top of other problems. sounds like finn and the golden should not be around each other at all!! so if you can find out when the golden won't be at the neighborhood dog social, then that would probably be the best solution.
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Thank you so much for the advice. This being me first dog, everything I know is from TV. I think we might just give the doggie party a pass for a while. sad because the neighbors are so nice, even the Golden owner, I really feel for her, but I don't want to put me or my pup in jeopardy!
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If the dog nipped you, chances are he'll nip Finn also. We've also had problems with interactions with goldens.


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It's a shame that you would have to miss out on such a great opportunity to socialize your puppy. If anything, the Golden Retriever should not be there, not you. It's never OK for a dog to attack another dog, but it's completely unacceptable when the dog attacks a person, period.

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I wouldn't go..period.

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My sister-in-law has a very calm and stable Golden and when Cappy was a puppy we all went on vacation together. Baily (the Golden) taught Cappy bite inhibition and how to behave around other dogs in 5 minutes, something we were still working on since he was only about 15 weeks old. Since that vacation, Cappy happily plays with all sizes and types of other dogs everywhere we go and roughhouses with my husband without biting down. Sounds like this dog is not stable or calm. Maybe the Golden's owner would consider a muzzle?
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