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No Need To Feel Guilty

This is a continuation story on a recent topic posted here. Indeed , no person should feel guilty on what type of dog they choose to bring into their lives, whether it be a rescue or a purebred or whatever. It also means that we shouldn't feel guilty for the breed we choose.
My friend and mentor from Ireland, just wrote a blog on her website about this , that I thought was good. Don't let anyone tell you what type of dog you can love. Good for you Anne. Here's her article http://pawsitivedawgs.wordpress.com/...onsumer-guilt/

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I have guilt. Our last two pets were purebreds.

Bazinga is a Siberian Cat, a breed known for its low FEL D1 count, the cat allergen to which most people react. My sis is very allergic. My mom bred her Siberian cat so that family could have a cat that wouldn't destroy my sis. Just two litters. I was so excited with the kittens' arrival and I mentioned it on one of my favorite forums. The abuse I got from forum members with whom I had chitchatted for over 6 years was incredible. I was shocked and in tears. I had to ask the forum mediator to remove the thread. It was awful.

We had always adopted rescues (4 pets out of 6 in my married life) but family situations had lead us to try to reduce the pet allergens. The only way to guarantee that was to go with a reputable breeder who did the testing.

I don't even bother to tell people that Jack is a purebred from a breeder. It isn't worth the hassle. I donate to the local shelter to offset my guilt.

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Pam this shouldn' t happen , and you shouldn't feel guilty. These are the same people that return dogs and cats left and right like anyone else, when they can't handle the animals' problems. Not everyone can take on a dog with behavioral problems, an ailing dog , sometimes you are doing them a favor by not trying to be a hero.

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Everyone has the right to live their lives and make their choices based upon what feels right for them. Anyone who makes you feel bad for te choices you make is, IMO, a bully. I took some flack too when I got Milo, from the holier than thou contingent who decided I should have gotten a pet from a shelter. What many of them didn't know (not that it makes a difference), was that every pet I had before that in my life was a rescue in one form or another.

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I know, I know... It is hard. The decision to get Jack was difficult.

I love Border Collies and Aussies. I know that they are some of the most surrendered breeds. Being an experienced B.C. owner, I could have easily qualified for another rescue. I just wasn't up for another high-energy dog with all of the complications of the breed. You are always on with a B.C. There is not a break, especially if there are two of them. Turning a page of a book is noted. Forget about getting up and moving to a new spot.

Jack is so calm and laid-back in comparison. Sure, he wants to be with me but he will snuggle and be content. Kit would be poised, ready to spring into action. Me sitting in my hubby's chair would blow Kit's mind. OCD all the way. Jack doesn't care as long as there is room for him.

I am glad I decided to switch breeds and go with Jack. His traits are exactly as expected. Of course, everything is easy compared to an OCD Border Collie.

Don't get me wrong. I loved Kit and his quirks. He was a great dog and we miss him dearly. I get over my guilt by donating to the Glen Highland Farm. They rescue B.C.s. I would have adopted from them if we had gone that route.

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I'm sure the rescue zealots would raise eyebrows at me - all my animals are purebred. My Sphynx cats are a "rare" breed that I got from a breeder. I did look in rescues but there aren't that many in rescues! Which is a good thing. I liked the idea of no hair because I dislike shedding. Come to find out, we realized my husband was allergic to cats, so this works for us. We will always have hairless cats. We found out he was also allergic to dogs, so I wanted a poodle. And then I wanted my second dog to be smaller and low allergen, but in drop coat - I went with a Hav. All of my animals except my poodle came from a breeder. But somehow it makes it "okay" because one dog is a rescue! I do feel somewhat guilty because I volunteered for rescue groups and there are so many animals out there, but we shouldn't feel guilty for choosing a dog/cat that works for US.

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It seems that the majority of us do agonize over 'rescue vs. purebred'. It is so hard. My mom is going through that now. Years and years of mutts and now she wants a Bearded Collie. (Yes, herding dogs are in the blood. I am 4th generation.) Mom always has wanted one but felt she didn't have the time to devote to such a high-energy breed. She semi-retired this April.

Hopefully, in mid-June this little girl is going home with Mom. I can't wait.
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Helloooooo. Do we feel guilty for having our own children and not adopting because there are so many needy children in the world? Probably not.

I am so tired of hearing judgmental people sound off on getting a pure bred dog. Rescue dogs are wonderful and so are pure bred dogs. Your choice I think.

What is necessary if you want a pure-bred dog of any breed, is to buy from a respected breeder who does not run a puppy mill.

We bought from a Havanese breeder who will take the dog back at any time for any reason. That, I think, is a requirement of the HCOA, but at any rate it is the responsible thing to do.

Again, your judgment and your choice.

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It seems that the majority of us do agonize over 'rescue vs. purebred'. It is so hard. My mom is going through that now. Years and years of mutts and now she wants a Bearded Collie. (Yes, herding dogs are in the blood. I am 4th generation.) Mom always has wanted one but felt she didn't have the time to devote to such a high-energy breed. She semi-retired this April.

Hopefully, in mid-June this little girl is going home with Mom. I can't wait.
She's adorable! I'm so glad she found one!!!


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The breeder has first choice and isn't going to make up her mind until the pups are 6 weeks old. This one is the only black girl but one of the blue girls is absolutely gorgeous. We are hoping the breeder chooses that one. Mom is so excited in getting her first purebred doggie.

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