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Unhappy Just need to vent?

Hi just need to vent?!try to make it short?but arh i feel so,(annoyed) i don't know how to explain?!i guess i have no one to talk with expect my hub.and feels kinda like how i do?i thinks? .A person can raise a child as best as they can?but of course they do turn into there own persons?if that makes any sense?my daughter had bought her first home.and she had always as i was made to think wanted a puppy?!before she bought a house she was renting and couldn't have one there so now she could.she grew up around dogs?you would think she would have a clue?but nope?she had them(bought 2 -female havanese/yorkie cross) maybe for a month and couldn't seem to properly take care of them?and on a sat night she was not feeling well(ya right) I and my hub offered to puppy sit for the night.we were going to go back to her place the next day to help put in a doggy door and fenced area.but that same weekend she just happened to get a boyfriend and had other plans.she no-longer wanted the puppies.they were to much work she had said and couldn't handle them(and so on).So yep it is Monday and they are still with me.they are very smart for around 3months old.in one day i have had them pee pad trained and to go outside to do there thing through are doggy door.but it is not fair to (my)are other 4-hav furkids, don't know if i can handle 6 dogs.And yep as much as i love my daughter i think she is irresponsible what not.am not pleased with her!could of maybe made her take them back and do what ever but they would not of got the care that they needed.and i did not want them messed up.they are so cute and smart.and i am so confused and feeling knotted up?Argh i don't know were to start or what to do.of course the 2-puppies are doing well and are supper happy.but my 4-furkids well i don't think care much for this change in routine?
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Years ago my daughter who was not living at home got a Lab puppy after 1 month her roomates wanted her and dog out, so she tried to move home and keep the puppy, I already had a Husky, a Golden, and a Shih Tzu...all house dogs. I let her bring it and gave her two weeks to find the puppy a home she kept begging but I knew if I gave in he would end up being mine. She found him a great home with family friends. She moved in with a boyfriend and didn't even ask about him after a week. She is now 36 her brother and I remind her still. We try but they have to learn on their own.

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I agree with Robbie I would have her find a home for the pup's maybe a rescue can help. You don't need 6 dogs and she needs to learn to be responsible for her actions.

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Sometimes it takes awhile for us to "get it." Try to rehome the dogs to a new adopted homes.



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Aw, that is a rough situation. The good news is that the puppies are still young enough that it should be easy to find them really great homes. If you weren't in Canada I'd offer to take one... (I know nothing about transporting dogs across interntional lines) though my husband might not like that too much. LOL

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Aw, that is a rough situation. The good news is that the puppies are still young enough that it should be easy to find them really great homes. If you weren't in Canada I'd offer to take one... (I know nothing about transporting dogs across interntional lines) though my husband might not like that too much. LOL
Not to try to twist your arm, but all you need is up-to-date vaccination records to take dogs between the U.S. and Canada. We found that out last summer when we travelled to Canada with Kodi.


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Many have made the same mistake as your daughter, wanting a puppy and finding they're not ready for the responsibility. Luckily she has admitted her mistake, have her find a home for the puppies.
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Not to try to twist your arm, but all you need is up-to-date vaccination records to take dogs between the U.S. and Canada. We found that out last summer when we travelled to Canada with Kodi.
No way! I had no idea it was that simple.

Well Sheila, if you get desperate for some help let me know. I've trained and placed dogs in the past and I really enjoy helping a dog find its forever home. And knowing me I'd end up falling in love with it and it'd stay here with us LOL (I have always loved Yorkies... and a Havanese/Yorkie mix must be adorable).

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Does she really not want them or just overwhelmed by the responsibility that 2 young active puppies take. Sometimes it's almost like a "post partum depression". I had no problems with my first dog, but when I got my hav pup a couple months ago I suddenly had second thoughts. I had just had surgery and thought I could handle it. The first night I was up at 2am crying "what was I thinking, this animal is a 15 year responsibility and I can't handle one night...." Maybe she needs a short break and will be ready to deal. If she isn't then you need to suggest rehoming them to someone you know or a rescue organization. Will the breeder take them back? Many will take a puppy back if it doesn't work out. I know my breeder had it in the contract that if I wanted to give her up then I had to send her back to the breeder and I wasn't allowed to rehome/sell her without their permission.

Everyone is allowed 1 mistake, as long as you don't hear her talking about another puppy this time next year.

You shouldn't keep 2 extra dogs that you didn't want. You'll just end up resenting them and it's not fair. I'm sure they are sweet dogs and the right family is out there for them.
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I think my daughter has had it to easy in life?She has more than what most people have at 21?yes she is young?and she has allot of growing and learning to do.she text-ed me today and said she can take her puppies back?And that she is sorry?she is just over whelmed with having to buy(spend money on) things like toilet excreta excreta with owing her own home and stress at work.I think its because she had just got a new boyfriend.??and has no time for anything or an body else.if that makes any sense?6 dogs is alot.but i do have the set up(space) for them.I think my 4-furbabies could sense that i am stressed.the puppies are not stressing me.its my daughter that is.and yes she should be the one responsible for them.I'll have to wait and see.hate when things seem like they are hanging in limbo,when there is no reason for any of it.my daughter is hard to talk with.but will see what happens?I have a vet app.for them.for check-up and shots on the weekand.got to talk more with my hub.i thinks he is attached already.as i am.If i were or do re-home them,i prob. would like it to be closer to were i live.so that whom ever had them i could doggy sit(baby-sit)when ever needed.(Free).So this way i could maybe always get to see them.But if my daughter decided to keep them and be responsible.that would be great.. right know all 6 furkids are sleeping all is quiet except for birds chirping outside and the sound of the wind..so peace full..thank-you all for the comments it does help and in a way makes me feel not so alone.even though i do have my hub.this forum is wonderful.Thank-you..
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