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I think you need a two-pronged approach. First, you need to strengthen the bond between Shadow and your wife, so that Shadow looks to her just as much as you. To do this, I would put your wife in charge of feeding and ALL THINGS FUN for a while.
At the same time, you need to be in charge of training replacement behaviors for his demanding behaviors. As I said in another thread, it's much easier to teach them to DO something than to NOT do something. So think of an acceptable replacement behavior for when he wants your attention. For instance, if he already knows sit or down (if not, you need to teach those first) ask him to sit or down quietly in front of you the MOMENT he sees you. then feed him a small training treat IN POSITION before you release him. Start with expecting no more than a couple of seconds duration, but over time, you can build to longer periods of duration. Always see-saw back and forth between asking for shorter and longer stays so he doesn't get discouraged.
When he is successful with this, you can start developing a "place" where he is to go and wait until you CAN (and want to) give him attention. This can be a crate, a dog bed or the corner of the couch. IT doesn't matter except that it needs to be your choice, and consistent. (and to make it easier for both of you, have it within your line of sight) Your wife can use these same replacement behaviors to interrupt his cycle of crying when you leave. If she gives him a job to do, and then rewards him for good (quiet) behavior, you should see him settling down quickly.
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