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separation anxiety?

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We have a Havanese male who is 10 months old, his name is Buster. He is a purebred and has not been neutered. I believe he has separation anxiety. My wife and I both work and her schedule changed back in January. I leave the house at 7am and return home around 6pm. She leaves the house around 9 or 10am and returns at 9:30 to 9:45pm. She is required to work OT very often. We also have two boys 6 and 9 years old and we bought Buster for them, my oldest has asthma and that is why we chose the Havanese breed.

Since my wife's schedule changed and even a little before that, Buster seems depressed when she is not at home. He does well at night and doesn't pee or poop in the crate. He doesn't bark or whine when I put him down for the night, but he does when she crates him. When I return home from work, his water and treats have not been touched and his face around his mouth is soaking wet. Is this from anxiety? I wait until he has calmed down and then get him out and walk him for 10 to 15 minutes outside. He is very anxious to get back inside and then just lies around. My boys try to play with him and sometimes he will, but mostly not. He will not eat or drink and lies there pointed at the door to the garage waiting on my wife to get home.

Once she arrives home, he barks and goes nuts, jumping and licking her to death, and then follows her around non stop. Then he starts to eat and drinks water like there's no tomorrow. She gets a little aggravated when he follows her, because he is right there every step.

I do not let him on the furniture or the bed unless someone is there with him and he does not chew destructively when I am home. Sometimes when I get home, I can tell he has been destructive while she was getting ready for work in the morning, there is chewed up toilet paper on our bed or the bedspread has been chewed on, or my boys tell me Buster pooped in the dining room and peed on the sofa. Does he do that because she is getting ready and not paying attention to him or he knows she is leaving soon? Usually when she wants some space and won't let him in the room she is in, he will whine and sniff like crazy at the door, I call him to come and sit with me or play, but I get ignored.


Buster is a good and loving dog and awesome when he wants to play, but I can't help feeling sorry for him being left alone all day. What can or should we do? I know Havanese are companion dogs and I do not want this to affect him the rest of his life or for him to suffer like this.

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Welcome. This is definitely no good. You have to figure a way to split this time away , in half , with some half hour to an hour of stimulation in the middle of it. Only you can figure out how to do that. It's not healthy physically or mentally.

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Dave is absolutely right--this will never work. This wonderful dog cannot be crated all day and all night. There must be some way to solve this problem--doggie day care?


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You are not being fair to your dog! It is a companion dog and needs to be with people ,not put in a crate or a bathroom for hours and hours.

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Oh, Michael, I feel so badly for you, your family, and most of all for Buster. I have not had to face those particular issues but I have friends who have. Is there any way you can have him in doggie daycare? We all know that puppies can not be crated for up to 8 hours. Daycare could provide a solution for the anxiety and for needed socialization. Apparently neither you nor your wife are able to come home in the middle of the work day. Is it possible to hire a dog walker to come in to walk him and play with him for an hour or so? Or, perhaps you have friends who would be able to babysit. I truly hope you are able to come to a solution to this problem.
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Seventeen hours in crate is horrible. Imagine yourself spending that time in small toilet or car without being able to walk or stretch a little! I think that it is quite depressing for little guy. He needs space to move around and play. I am against crating dogs for periods that are longer than one hour. I use crate only in the car for Roki's security and during dog shows. i have read somewhere thet crate is just an euphemism for a CAGE. When alone Roki has acess to whole appartement. He han never chewed or destroyed anything, never barked and no potty accidents.
First step should be to allow him to stay confined to kitchen with his bed, toys, pee pad, food and water. Doggie day care is good solution. If you do not find solution think about rehoming him. It can be act of love and care!
His wet face indicates that he is in extreme state of stress and fear!

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I agree with Marina ( rokipiki)that you should consider re-homing Buster.

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Michael, I went through your post once again and came to conclusion that Buster is dog with many issues and that TIME IS RUNNING OUT for him! You have to act really fast!

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I think doggy day care or re-homing asap. I'm also concerned that your wife gets annoyed when he follows her around after she gets home. I would feel guilty for having left him, not annoyed. If he's annoying her, then for both their sakes, please re-home.
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I have to agree. I couldn't respond to the initial post. All I could think was, poor, sad little dog. Even zoos now know that animals need more enrichment in their lives than that.


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