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post #1 of 18 (permalink) Old 08-06-2012, 04:09 PM Thread Starter
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A few bumps in the road...

OK, so I have been away from the forum for a while, here's what I've been dealing with:

Getting ready to move (completely on our own, we will have some help with the heaving lifting from our church)

Seller uncooperative throughout entire process, it took 4 weeks to get through the attourney review (usually a 1 week process)

Date of closing pushed back 10 days. This is because the seller has figured out she can be in breech of the contract for 10 days before legal action can be taken, our attourney said there's nothing he can do about it

We both took a "vacation" week for this week, the week of the closing in the contract, however b/c seller is still in the house, we can't pull the carpet up and redo the hardwood floors underneath, we both have to return to work now without having been able to do the work on the house and comfortably move our things in. Now we have to wait until next year so we can afford to have all our furniture put into storage and stay at a hotel while the floors get done

Unfortunately Hanna has been neglected a little and at one point 1 1/2 weeks ago she was covered in mats (not tight ones, just enough so that there was no way I could give her a bath). I seriously thought about taking her down and was actually ok with that idea. The hair would grow back and it would give me a break, especially with all the turmoil going on. But when I mentioned it to John, out of NOWHERE he just wasn't having any of it, told me "But I love the look and she'll look like a rat!" and then took me to the store to buy new supplies. I bought a new comb, brush, detangling spray, and new shampoo and conditioner. I spent 3 hours that night dematting her, and she was a little annoyed at the end but no worse for the wear. I went through her again the next day just to check she was good and gave her a bath with the new product, and she's as good as new. I was actually quite pleased with my new things (bought at Petco, surprise surprise), my CC brush had all the pins in the middle sunk in and it wasn't quite doing the trick anymore. The comb has rotating tines which I'm still not exactly sure how I feel about it, but it did the job, and the slicker brush was not too soft, yet not to scratchy and harsh either. I was surprised they carried Rosie B. Good product, as it's made by IOD and was very happy to try it out. Best stuff I've used so far. So, I guess if you're ever in a pinch and don't want to wait to order something online and you have a choice between PetSmart and Petco, go with Petco as they have superior grooming products, although the price might be slightly higher.

Talking about my employer, I was shocked at how difficult it was for me to try to transfer 30 miles away. I have been with this company for 3 years, I am experienced, stable, knowledgeable, and come with high recommendation, in such a high turnover environment, I thought they would be fighting each other for me, but that's not the response I got. I tried 2 stores that were closest to me and they wouldn't negotiate with me on my schedule. The first one, I let them know that I firmly was NOT willing to work Sundays anymore or weekday evenings, that I have young children and it was not worth it to me to pay for a sitter for them all day and into the evening. The response I got was that it's a retail business (duh! I already know that!) and that there are other working mothers in the salon who would get uspet if I got the hours I wanted. They said they had problems with covering all the hours before, but they have it all worked out now. So, let me get this straight...the women are too immature to deal with that and you're happy now that you've got people who you can easily manipulate and control into whatever you want them to do, was my immediate response in my head to this manager. I left saying it was a dealbreaker for me. The other store (the one that I was offended at with the groomer saying she couldn't waste a groomer's time bathing my dog) I also got a chilly reception. Then the phone call a few days later saying he would not be able to work out a full time option for me. I was devastated. My employment pays for my twins' preschool tuition, costly here in the NE and DOUBLED for me. Their pre k education is very important to me and they have one more year before KG. I could have worked PT at those ones but I just had a bad taste in my mouth from the grueling 1 hr long interviews, (I didn't even think I had to interview, I thought someone would just take me as a transfer) where I was prodded and poked about my "add-on percentages" and my "average dogs per day" numbers and so on and so forth. I felt defeated. I had already called all the private salons nearby and the timing just wasn't working out. I even called Petco, but that wasn't going to work either as they were just planning on transfering people to other locations, too far for me. Finally I tried my 3rd option and that manager had no trouble taking me in PT. I wasn't planning on PT as that is slightly less than what I need to make, but she sounded friendly and excited over the phone and I was so bummed that I just took it. We will be fine, but a little tight. I will probably try to do something those two days I don't have a job for.

Sorry for the novel, but it's been a while!

At the end of the day, I am happy that we will finally have our cute little house, and everyone is healthy.

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wow you really have been through the ringer with this move!... Is the seller stalling because s/he has nowhere to go once she moves out? Too bad for the seller!

When we had new floors installed, we were able to move furniture out of one room at a time and then move it back in after the bamboo flooring was installed and then empty another room out each day. I have never had floors refinished, so I don't know if that would be feasible for you.

Your kids (all 3) are adorable. Your DH must have a lot of fun with the boys.

Hannah's hair is so much longer than in your Avatar, and she is gorgeous. I can see why your DH wanted you to keep it long.

I am so sorry that the first two New Jersey managers have been so difficult. they should be glad to have someone with your experience instead of hiring someone right out of the grooming academy.



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The house is not in forclosure so I am surprised at how difficult the seller has been. The seller is retired and is moving to FL with her boyfriend. The boyfriend also gave a go with some non-issue with the land survey. My suspision is that the seller is angry that her house sold at the current market rate instead of at the high before the housing bubble, and that she is in denial about the current worth of the house. I also think she was advised by her attourney that the longest she could stay in the house was 10 days, as she demanded the close could not happen until exactly 10 days from the close in the contract, after that we could move with a "time of essence" against her. Technically she is in breech of the contract. Our agent, who is also her agent, has told us she is the most difficult client he has ever dealt with in his 30 years of being a realtor. Our attorney has called her a "nasty woman." I will just be glad when it is over.

Since we are refinishing the existing hardwood floors on both floors, it is a messy process as the sanding causes a lot of wood dust and I don't want that to get all over the furniture. Also my husband is very sensitive to dust, carpet, cardboard boxes etc. so I don't think he would do well with being at the house while the floors get sanded down.

Yes, Hanna's hair has gotten longer. I'll have to take a better picture of her these days, but I have the move to deal with and I also want to trim her feet. There is some breakage around her eye area from having her topknot up but it keeps her eyes a lot cleaner than keeping it down. I'm curious if using different hair bands will help with that. I am trying to grow her coat longer actually. It's hard to tell from the pics but her coat isn't fully mature yet. If you look at the hair that starts near the part down the middle of her back it goes to about slightly above her hock area. I'd like to see it go all the way down to the floor, if possible. I've read of show people banding the hair to get it to grow long, but I don't know if I'm dedicated enough to do that! I can already see all those little knots where the elastics would be and then maybe I'd have to shave her or it'd be the beginning of cording!
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Would using tissue paper under the elastic bands help prevent the little knots? Are you planning on showing Hannah? I decided that I love my Havs' long hair, but since I am not showing them (no papers for rescues), they don't have to be perfect.

Buster is ringing the bell to go out (yeah!!), so I need to get away from the computer. LOL



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Sorry to hear what a hard time you've been having! Moving, under the BEST of circumstances, is stressful, but this really sounds awful.

At least you found something part time in a place where it sounds like your work will be valued. Maybe you can grow it into a full time position. We KNOW you're good at what you do!!!

Your boys are adorable, and I remember how important it was to me that my boys do Pre-K in a good school. ... And we were lucky that we didn't have two in at once! (of course, we HAVE had a two year overlap for college but that's still a long way off for you!)

Starr, installing new floors is NOTHING like refinishing old ones. The house gets totally filled with very fine, nasty dust while they are sanding off the old finish, and then there are toxic fumes from the new finish being put down. Even if you are just doing part of the house, you really need to vacate the whole hose for the duration. We just went through this whit our addition. They refinished just the dining room, stairs and hallway, and we had to be out of the house (including boarding our bird) for 3 or 4 days.


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Yes, now that I think of it I have seen a clip of using two different layers to bind the hair. It looks complicated. Down the road if I feel I really want her coat that length I might give it a try. I have entered Hanna in a couple of shows as a puppy but her personality wasn't right for it at the time. I am a novice shower and I'm sure in experienced hands she would be finished by now. She has been slow to mature but is coming along nicely. I've had some nice improvements with her on leash walking and how she behaves with strangers. She has slight conformation show faults, which are front legs are a bit too long and her rise isn't pefect, it's a little more rounded than what the judges want. I've been thinking about re-starting her. I will have to enroll her in another class and see how she does this time around. I think she might to well in agility as she is very quick on her feet and also at following directions, she's good at following my finger "point", especially if she knows I have a treat
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Yes, Hanna's hair has gotten longer. I'll have to take a better picture of her these days, but I have the move to deal with and I also want to trim her feet. There is some breakage around her eye area from having her topknot up but it keeps her eyes a lot cleaner than keeping it down. I'm curious if using different hair bands will help with that.
These are what I've started using on Kodi. They cause less breakage than anything else I've tried:

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I am trying to grow her coat longer actually. It's hard to tell from the pics but her coat isn't fully mature yet. If you look at the hair that starts near the part down the middle of her back it goes to about slightly above her hock area. I'd like to see it go all the way down to the floor, if possible. I've read of show people banding the hair to get it to grow long, but I don't know if I'm dedicated enough to do that! I can already see all those little knots where the elastics would be and then maybe I'd have to shave her or it'd be the beginning of cording!
I don't think their hair is SUPPOSED to grow to the floor, is it? I thought I read something in the standard about it "not obscuring their outline" or some such. I do know I've never seen a show Hav where you couldn't see their legs somewhat. They don't ever seen to look like a Maltese, where the coat looks like it's trimmed right at floor level.


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Those are the kind of band I use, too, Karen. They stay in pretty well and don't seem to do any damage to the hair. In this hot weather I will grab one of theirs to pull up my own hair in a ponytail!!!

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Many of the show photo's that I've seen are of Hav's that are under 2 years of age, as there seems to be a push for the dog to finish as quickly as possible. When I look at older dogs, their coats seem to be reaching the floor or almost, as in this picture of Pan, Hanna's grandfather. The Hav I used to groom, I'm sure his coat would reach the floor if I let it but I've always trimmed it up and it always seemed to grow back down. I'm sure the dog has to have the genetics for a long coat first.
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Thanks Karen. I will be giving those a try. I was really wondering about those fuzzy ones as what I am using now are just thin ones I use for my hair (no metal piece), but I wasn't sure what other people were doing.
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