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Sibling Rivalry

Hi!

I got a 4 month old Hav last week, and my older Hav (3.5) is having a hard time with the adjustment. I had planned to get the new one to keep her company, but it seems that little Lola is making my older one, Amber, crazy! I know it has only been a week and that these things take time, but I was wondering if anyone has any tips...

Amber has been acting out by peeing in my bedroom (which she never does) and also refusing to eat and hiding in the corner of my bedroom when I enter. I have started taking her on individual walks without Lola, and making sure to set aside extra time for just her, which has helped, and Amber still gets her usual privileges that Lola does not (e.g. sleeping on the bed). Since the beginning, I have also had anyone who visits my apartment greet Amber first before the puppy. Unfortunately Amber just seems quite depressed.

Lola, on the other hand, wants to be best friends with Amber and is very distraught when Amber does not respond back lovingly. At this point, they are coexisting, but their interactions usually go something like this: Lola running and jumping around/on Amber, Amber growls, Lola starts barking incessantly, Amber growls more, etc. It's also making it a lot harder to train Lola, who has been much more difficult than puppy Amber (who I got at 2 mos).

On a side note, Lola cries incessantly when I am not in her sight and it takes a VERY long time for her settle down which still includes some light crying. I have her in an expen when I am doing things and when she eats but it's only helpful if we're in the same room because of the obnoxious crying. Furthermore, I am trying to crate train her, but she is always pooping in her crate at night! I take her out right before bedtime and she won't go but then in the morning, poop surprise! At least she is quiet when she has crate time.

I imagined when I got a puppy that I would only be training the new puppy, but it seems there is a lot more to it when you have another dog! Any tips would be greatly appreciated! THANKS!!!

~ Stephanie with Amber and Lola

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Welcome to the forum. This can happen. And it is fairly common. The biggest thing to work on , is her peception of the pup. You want to work on having good things happen when the pup is nearby. Definitely spend even more attention to her than the pup. It does take time. Some more than others. I have some article that might help.

Adding a second dog Pat Miller http://www.thebark.com/content/bringing-home-second-dog

http://blogs.dogster.com/dog-trainin...d-dog/2010/12/

http://www.dogstardaily.com/blogs/bringing-home-bella

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Thanks for the tips! Amber has definitely been feeling better since I started paying more attention to her than to the puppy. Unfortunately, there is still a ways to go.

I looked at the articles you posted and Amber does fit the bill in terms of being a good first dog who would do well with a second dog. I think once the puppy is better trained, it will help a lot.

~ Stephanie with Amber and Lola
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