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Losing a pet

Ever wonder if you are nuts. I mean , have you ever lost a pet and felt more sorrow than losing a close relative? Psychologists tell us this is quite normal. But we sometimes wonder why we feel such guilt and sorrow. My friend lost her dog a year ago and still is heartbroken. On her dog training site she wrote a touching piece on her feelings on the one year aniversary of her beloved dog Rufus' trip to the Rainbow Bridge. So don't feel bad or guilty if this has happened to you . I know it has with me. Kleenex may be required ... http://pawsitivedawgs.wordpress.com/.../11/oneyearon/

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Grieving is tough! It's definitely something that I am still going through myself. I am 29 years old, and in March, my cat of 20 years passed away. He had a great, long life but losing him hit me very hard. I went through many great times and many tough times with him (including a cancer diagnosis...and I swear he knew something was wrong; he didn't leave my side while I was healing). He was with me almost my entire life! I had never even considered getting a dog until I couldn't handle the grief any longer and knew that another cat was out of the question. I prayed a lot about it and this amazing little guy came into my life. And at times, I swear that there's a little of Pumpkin in Bear ...mainly the times that he's driving me crazy! As much as I love Bear, I still find myself tearing up and missing Pumpkin sometimes. I can completely relate with your friend's heartbreak and emotional tie to her companion.

I wish her happiness with her new dog and closure with the loss of Rufus.
Great piece of writing!
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What a touching story of your own. I hear ya there. we had a cat that lived to nineteen and a half years. I still get choked up thinking of her. I'm afraid to see what it will be like when Molly goes. Thanks for sharing.

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As you know I lost Frannie in 2010-I still miss her so much-and there are times I cry just thinking about her. She will always be a part of my heart & I still am so very grateful for the two years she was with me.

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God bless you Pat. Yeah I remember.

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Our pets are with us 24/7 so they become ingrained in our life--more so than many relatives. The pain from their deaths is sharp and deep. I've learned that the actual pain will lessen greatly but their memory last forever.

My husband and I still talk about the dogs we've had these past 34 years we've been married. Talking about them still brings smiles and laughter--they will never be forgotten by us.

A pain much deeper and lasting, though, is the pain of losing a child or parent. Thankfully, I haven't experienced the pain of losing a spouse but I think that would go to the top of the list. But that kind of grief puts a hole in the heart that doesn't go away. Peace and healing can come but I think of it like losing a limb--life goes on but it's never the same.

We grieve, we heal, and we snuggle our furry kids a little closer.
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Well said Nancy

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Loosing a pet is hard, and the grief does lessen with time, though you will, think about the pet in years to come. I've had dogs my entire life and grived with all, even little puppies that only lived a day or so. I do think the hardest was Inky (Oliver and Spot's mother) who was 4 and the puppies were 2 weeks old. The grief is gone (it's been a bit over 2 years) but we still talk about her. I named one of my little puppies Nicky. We had a Sheltie years ago named Knickers that we sometimes called Nickie. Ed and I were talking about her today. You just don't forget.

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Thank goodness for memories both good and sad, but I must say there are times when just out of the blue, literally, a thought of a long ago pet will creep into my mind and the tears will come. They all have special memories and I have special grief, but like the good memories the sad ones stay too. My little Min Pin who did not like living in a house with just cats brought home a little abused dachshund and taught the shy little thing everything he needed to know to be prince of the house (King of the house was the MinPin)...My tuxedo cat who showed up on the exact spot where I buried my recently lost tuxedo cat..not easy since there are 5 acres involved..it was like seeing a ghost. My cat who died and when I picked him up to bury him found a four leaf clover in his white fur. (Too sad to tell anymore about that). The inevitable loss of my MinPin, my Dachshund, and some others over 40 odd years leave me thankful to have had them but selfish enough to wish they could have stayed longer.
I think the one thing we have to be able to do is release our pets when they can no longer be made comfortable and not keep them in pain because we are too selfish to let them go. Pets just do not live long enough, and because their love is so pure, it is difficult for us to let go. We need to be aware of how loyal they are to us and spend more time enjoying them...nothing lasts forever. And we all feel guilty when they are gone, it is human nature I think.

Sir Winston sez "Non Basta Una Vita.

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ahhh Flynn that was touching.

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