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Anxiety in new hav :(

We've had our two year old hav for about a month now. She is incredibly attatched to my 7 year old son. I might as well be invisible. She is not potty trained so I need to keep her crated unless she has just been out or I know she will stay in the room with us. When we do crate her, it's in a wire crate in the same room where we are. I also cannot let her just "hang out" with the kids because she chews everything!

The problem is, if she cannot see my son she becomes very anxious. She whines, pants, paces etc. I sometimes just keep her on a leash with me and she acts the same way. If she stays in the crate and he is in the room, she will sleep soundly. She also barks her head off anytime we leave. She seems to be getting better. Today when we came home she was silent until we called out to her. I guess she was asleep!

How do I help her become less anxious, especially when my son is not in the room? Why is she so attatched to him? I also have a 5 year old daughter. She does not seem as attatched to her.
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Seven and eight are great ages for childern to get a dog and have some supervised responsibility for that] dog. All dogs have a settling in period, each dog is different in how long they take to find their roll in your house hold. It took my Hav Yogi less then a week he was about 6 months and he just followed my bossy shih tzu, who insisted on regular trips outside for the pesky puppy (we have a dog door), I did not house train Yogi, it happened. My girl Hav Misty was about 3 when whe got her and it took about 8 months for her to find her place and almost a year to house train. I have a Bolonka girl who just turned two, she was easy to house train, but will not use the dog door (she knows how), it has taken her about 6 months to find her place...she is now so comfortable she thinks she can boss the other dogs.

I crate my Bolonka girl everytime I leave and at night she is only 6 pounds and likes to play...the Havs play "ruff" and are bigger it's a safity measure, she loves her crates. She use to howl when we left, I started giving her a knong before I left, now days its a couple of small treats, we also do not make a big deal when we leave or come home, it took awhile. We also leave the crate open at all times when we are home.

My suggestion is to help your son take an active role in training your new dog, if you have time go with your son to an obedience class, usually they are six weeks one night a week, the smaller the class the better for you and your son, he will learn some ways of helping your dog with adjusting, plus helpful tips on house training, these will help you also and both of you will bond with the dog. The funny thing about children is they don't listen to us ( selective parental deafness or spd), but they listen to others. The barking for attention needs to be ignored this is hard for us and even harder for the kids, hearing it from someone else is often more effective. A beginner obedience class will not solve all your problems but will get you started on the right track.

As for housetraining if you have a yard, your son can help with that too, he can have a couple of times a day to take the dog out on leash in your yard and reward your dog after the event...sell this to your son as being cool and praise him for his brilliant efforts.
The reason your dog is not going for your daughter ye,t is five year olds can be scary to a small dog, she is being assessed, your dog wants to trust her but is unsure, this will just take time, now your son he is a cool age in a dogs eyes!

Don't worry about the dog attachment to your son, as long as your son is ok with it. Use this relationship to advantage, and your dog will come to trust all family members, from your sons cues. Congrats on your new pet...a little bit of vicks on furnture your pup is trying to chew and redirect him to some appropiate chew toys. Good luck and pictures and names!!!!!

Robbie, Boo Boo, Yogi, and Misty's human.
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