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post #1 of 37 (permalink) Old 10-09-2012, 04:30 PM Thread Starter
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Okay, most of you know my trials and tribulations with trying to find anywhere or someone to watch Tillie. It's been 2 years and every avenue I try ends with a dead end. And now, the place that has been recommended for awhile, kind of my 'last resort' BUT the best, kennel free, kind of home/outside boarding place just rejected us!! I am a HUGE people pleaser/peace keeper. I can not stand it when someone is mad at me or just plain doesn't like me. So, this actually really hurts me.

I contacted the lady a few weeks ago and she sent me paper work. I filled it all out and e-mail it back to her. A full week went by and I hadn't heard anything, so I sent her another e-mail asking if she had recieved my paper work. A few days later she says yes and that we can set up a day care day. Keep in mind I don't know much about the place, have never been out there, or met anyone from their, so even though my friends rave about the place, I wanted to check it out. BUT I am just suppose to leave her there, the first time I visit. Anyway, so I sent her this e-mail :

Hello!

Great! I am a bit of a nervous nellie... will she be supervised closely during her day care day to see how she does?
She isn't used to being around other dogs, so I am nervous about how she will do. I have been working with her a lot and she does well around small, non barky, non aggressive dogs, but she hasn't ever had the chance to be off leash with any other dogs. All my fault, but wanted you to know! She is also VERY attached to me and will be very confused when I leave her, will someone be able to let her follow them around and what not? or how does it work with the newbies??

Thank you for understanding my worries!! "


Does it sound like Tillie is aggressive? or do I make us sound horrible or something??? I just had some questions, that's all, that I wanted to ask.

so, today I get home from work and got this e-mail back:

"Hi,

I donít believe "kennel name here" will be the best fit for Tillie. The dogs are closely supervised and receive lots of human attention, but in order for our guests to enjoy this type of boarding, they ďmust love dogs.Ē Due to her lack of socialization with other dogs, Iím afraid she will be overwhelmed by the activity here. It sounds to me like Tillie would be much happier at home, in the care of a loving pet/house sitter. Thank you so much for considering us!

My best,

XXXXXXXXX"

She answered very politely and compassionately and I think has Tillie's best interest at heart, but still. Sight unseen. Tillie didn't even get a CHANCE... I feel like a failure. AND we STILL don't have anyone anywhere that could ever watch Tillie. I just feel like curling up and crying....

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I just wanted to know if Tillie was going to be 'thrown' in with a bunch of dogs and left to her own defenses....

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Hi Tammy -- Well I'm a much newer puppy mom, as Benjamin's only 6 months, but I don't blame you a bit for wanting more information and involvement at the beginning. If they don't have anything to hide, why would they object to having you stick around to see how Tillie does before leaving her there? Sounds fishy to me! I will admit that I am behind on my HF reading and have not followed your whole process with looking for a dog watcher. I have just begun the process myself and it is hard. Is there no one in your area who watches dogs in their homes? I have found lots around here who do boarding, but don't know if they do daytimes or evenings only. Hang in there, there is nothing wrong with you, for sure!
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to be honest Tammy , I agree with her. What sort of care are you looking for exactly. ?

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ya, like I said at the end of my e-mail I understand and she was nice about it, but really, not even giving Tillie a CHANCE? are we THAT bad??

They require just the 1 day of day care and then you can board there. We just wanted to have a "go to" place in case something happened and we needed to board her somewhere. I have searched and searched and searched and there are no in home dog boarding places anywhere. Just a little old lady would do fine, but noooooooo, no.one. And if there was... I probably wouldn't trust them. lol I'm pathetic.

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You may be right, Dave, but it seems a bit unreasonable to me to just expect someone to drop off their dog for a day of boarding without having seen the place.
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Tammy, I know you feel bad being rejected, but I really don't think this is the type of place for Tillie. I am pretty sure Lizzie and Tillie are a lot alike and would be overwhelmed with all the dogs in a kennel type environment. Even just the noise of dogs barking could be a stressor for her. Then there is the being alone overnight issue. I have been through this. The receptionist at the orthodontist told me of her neighbor who watches small dogs out of her home. I took Lizzie over twice for an hour and she said she would watch her. She did watch Lizzie for a week and found her to be too needy. I do blame myself for this as she sleeps with us and has never really been alone. I guess when her husband went to bed at 2 am Lizzie would start crying as she was now alone in the family room. She had told me that she could sleep with one of her kids. Not really sure what happened there. Luckily, I asked the neighbors nanny who I saw with her two dogs at the bus stop if she would watch Lizzie. She LOVES Lizzie and doesn't find her needy or anything. She has been super. I was absolutely shocked when she told me that she put Lizzie in her kennel and told her to go to sleep and she was quiet the entire week. She is not kennel trained!! Just ask everywhere you go when you see someone with small dogs if they have a pet sitter or what they do when they go on vacation. I sure wish I lived close to you as I would take Tille in a heartbeat.

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Do you know about Rover.com? I don't know where you live, but it shows a lot of people in my area who board dogs in their homes. Maybe you could find something there.
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awwww, thank you Lynne!

Ya, this place ISN'T a kennel, and at night they stay in the owners house, in thier crates and Tillie IS crate trained! They stay in thier house over night, so they aren't alone.
But, she won't even let Tillie try it out. It might not have worked, but to just say NO, sorry, she can't come? My feelings are totally hurt. I have tried for 2 yrs to find some one or somewhere to watch her when/if we ever leave and have never found anyone.
I have even flat out ASKED people that have small, friendly dogs on the street or in Pet Smart if they would consider watching her and everyone just laughs it off... I just feel SO alone in this ding dang hick town!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
this weekend I am going to my home town... with Tillie in tow. Should be an interesting weekend. Football games, pumpkin patch, parks, eating out, lots of friends houses ... pray for me!

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yeah Tammy , I think the best bet would be a dog sitter. Someone trained preferably.

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