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Big time separation anxiety issues - help!

Hi,

We are having some big separation anxiety issues with Willoughby - and they are getting worse, not better.

I'm only gone a few days a week for just a couple hours. But when I come home, he's torn apart everything in his xpen thing. I stopped putting food in there because he threw it all around. I stopped putting water in there because he spilled it over. Now he's tearing apart his pee pads! Today he tore it apart so much he end up covered in... doo! Yikes! I had to give him an immediate bath.

He also is so upset that when I return I know he's wearing himself down because he is exhausted to the bone and wimpering for about 5 minutes after I return. I feel terrible - what do I do? He's going to have to get used to me being gone a bit most days. I can't barricade myself in the house. But I feel awful that he's getting more and more upset each time I leave.

Any suggestions?

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I would put him in a crate with nothing else.....no pad,no toy,no nothing.Not as punishment---but to calm him.Quincy still is put in a crate when I have to leave for very long.Just the plain plastic crate,with nothing else.He goes in there by himself to "get away" and sleep.It isn't mean,they actually need this.I know it may seem harsh,but if you nip it in the bud right away he'll be better off in the long run.

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My fear is though that he'll still poop in there and I'll come home with a dog covered in feces! I don't think he'd hold off just b/c there was no pad in there.
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Have you tried putting one of your dirty shirts in with him? You can also get the snuggle puppy to make him feel safe. Also try leaving the Tv or radio on. Make sure everyone keeps their Goodbyes and hello's as calm as possible. Do not make a big deal when you come and go. When you come home ignore him for a few seconds, don't even look at him. After you wait a beat, have him sit and quiet before you let him out. When you are home, put him in the pens area and practice leaving the room. Only come back when he is quiet. Do not just put him in the pen when you leave the house or he will relate the pen with you leaving. All my guys had this issue, but if you stick with it, they will come around. My guys are very good when I leave.





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oh yes he will---keep the crate small---they do not like to be in their own pee and poo....they learn to hold it.I wouldn't leave him in there for a long period of time,but start with a small amount of time,like 15 min.and build it up.Did the breeder crate train him?Most do so he is famailiar with the crate.If so,the time is longer.My Quince was 16 wks.and flew(in a plane) with delays etc.--he was in a crate for many hours and never pooped or peed.

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they do not like to be in their own pee and poo
But the past two days he been in it! Yesterday it was just his feet - today the crap was all over the floor, and a lot on him. Yuck! I had to give him a bath the second I walked in the door. Will he grow out of that then? (he's 9 weeks old)

I have a crate, but thus far I've just had him in the xpen thing and that's what he was in at the breeder's.

I'm going to try all the other suggestions too - TV might be a good one. We have noticed he is entranced by it - lol!

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Also try leaving the Tv or radio on. Make sure everyone keeps their Goodbyes and hello's as calm as possible. Do not make a big deal when you come and go. When you come home ignore him for a few seconds, don't even look at him. After you wait a beat, have him sit and quiet before you let him out. When you are home, put him in the pens area and practice leaving the room. Only come back when he is quiet. Do not just put him in the pen when you leave the house or he will relate the pen with you leaving. All my guys had this issue, but if you stick with it, they will come around. My guys are very good when I leave.
Great advise, Monte was really bad when I would leave the house and this is what worked for me. Now when I come home both boys will just sit and stare at me while I go through the mail or put things away before taking them out.

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Hi Christy,

I leave the T.V. on for Sissy. It does get better.

You might check out this thread - Lina had some great advice - it was at
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http://havaneseforum.com/showthread....9326#post49326

Poor baby - he loves you so much!


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Great advise, Monte was really bad when I would leave the house and this is what worked for me. Now when I come home both boys will just sit and stare at me while I go through the mail or put things away before taking them out.
Do they spin while they are waiting? LOL. I think these are the guys that like to spin. Sorry if I am confused.





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LOL Yes it is my boys that love to spin.. They are both really good and just sit waiting for me to come over to them. It's a totally different story when DH comes home (Riley howels) but then again they are already out of their pens.

Christy dont worry, he just needs to realize you ARE coming back for him. I also give the boys a cookie right before I walk out the door.

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