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Traumatized puppy - what to do?

This is long, but want to give you details so maybe someone can give me advise.

Abby's now 14 wks old. She & Kallie get along beautifully. Yesterday afternoon, Kallie had a grooming appt. I went home for lunch, as normal. Took them both out to potty, fed Abby her lunch. Played for a little while - all normal everyday routine. Then Abby had to go back into her ex-pen (as usual), but instead of Kallie going into the same bedroom (she's loose, usually laying on the bed), I closed the door (as usual) and took Kallie with me. Abby started crying immediately. Knowing she was safe in the ex-pen, with peepad & water & toys, I left. When I got home @ 5:00 PM from picking Kallie up (she was absolutely gorgeous!), DH was there holding Abby in his arms. He said he'd been home for about 20 minutes. When he walked in, Abby was howling. When he opened the bedroom door, she had escaped from the ex-pen (no idea how), and was throwing herself against the window. He called her, went over & picked her up. He said she was so panicked she didn't even realize he had her. He said she was absolutely flailing around like she'd lost her mind. He took her out to potty, set her down & she panicked again & wanted picked up. After 20 minutes, when I got home, she was finally settled. But she wouldn't let Kallie out of her sight all evening. Stayed right by her side.

There will be times that they will be separated down the road. What's the best way to get her threw/over this? I need to start working on this immediately, but don't want to do more damage. She seems to have bonded with both myself & DH. Loves to be cuddled/held.

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wow! this sounds just heartbreaking... I'm so sorry this happened!

Have they been seperated before? I'm thinking starting now (or when someone brings a puppy home) they should regularly be seperated...? hopefully the experts will chime in soon!!

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I separated them last weekend for about an hour. I had Abby in her ex-pen & Kallie in a crate in another room w/stuffed kong. Kallie's never been crate trained, so working on that now. Kallie was fine. Abby howled the whole time. But I just thought she didn't want to be in her ex-pen at that time. Now I'm beginning to wonder. They do separate naturally. Abby in LR with me, Kallie in FR w/DH. Abby plays independently. Kallie can be in the recliner sleeping, and Abby will be on the floor playing with a toy, entertaining herself.

Yes, Tammy, I'm hoping expert advise will help some of the others so they don't run into this same situation!

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Others will have specific suggestions, however, Abby will need to learn to be alone and that means without Kallie present as well as without you or your DH. Since her first real experience was so traumatic, you may want to engage a professional trainer to help you lay out a plan for building Abby's independence and confidence. It is sometimes hard for us to remember that we have to teach puppies that they will be ok when they are left alone. It rather goes against nature since puppies are vulnerable and in the wild a puppy alone probably wouldn't live very long.


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Thanks, Pucks104! I know you have several dogs, so I appreciate your experienced input. I've never had 2 at the same time before. Kallie was fine being by herself, guess Abby's just a different personality!

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Maybe a shirt or blanket that smells like Kallie would make her feel some of Kallie is with her. If she is still traumatized, a professional trainer is needed.


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Maybe a shirt or blanket that smells like Kallie would make her feel some of Kallie is with her. If she is still traumatized, a professional trainer is needed.
Worth a try.


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134 views, and only 2 people care to help? Interesting. I'll figure it out.

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I'm not sure what to suggest. One thing I was thinking is that perhaps you should start by separating them by taking Abbie with you. Take Abbie on a short walk. Let her see you leave Kallie at home. Then come home and switch. Take Kallie with you. Maybe take Abbie for 15-20 minutes to tire her out a bit, then slowly build up the time you take Kallie. Maybe 3 mins the first day, 5 mins a the next, ect.
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Could they be separated in separate places, but could see each other?


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