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post #1 of 22 (permalink) Old 01-31-2008, 03:50 AM Thread Starter
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Havs and babies

I'm just curious whether anyone here has had a new Hav and a new baby. We're moving into a new house soon and I'd like to get another Hav to keep my Yoyo company. However I'm also getting married in May and plan on starting a family right away. Everyone thinks I'm crazy for taking on 2 dogs and a new baby. So just wondering if anyone out there has any stories or advice.
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Yeah... everyone told me that too. That's why I waited until "my baby" was 4 before adding furkids. I see all the time on Craigs List people getting rid of their dogs when they get pregnant or have a baby because they can't do it all. Sad. As an OB nurse and childbirth educator (and mommy to 4, of course!), I can assure you that your life with just a newborn baby will be very, very full: breastfeeding, exhaustion, etc. You mostlikely will discover a new meaning to the words "busy, stressed, worried." LOL But, I don't know, you may be one of those superwomen who can handle puppy and newborn!
BTW, many, many congratulations on your marriage!!! Yay! And if you have any pregnancy or newborn questions, feel free to ask!
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When I had my human babies (now 3 & 6) we had adult German Shepherds, with patience and lots of supervision the dogs welcomed the babies to the family. But I waited until my youngest was 18 months old before I added a Havanese baby to the family. For me it would have been impossible to handle housetraining a puppy and nursing a baby at the same time. Even at 18 months, it was tricky when I was alone, to take the pup out to go potty, I had to grab the pup in one arm and the baby in the other. To make things worse it was winter.

But if you were able to get a new pup now, by the time the baby came, the pup would be trained. So you would really only have one baby at a time.

Where there is a will there is a way!

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well we would probably be getting the new puppy in june and if things go as planned, i would be having a baby in april/may, so the "puppy" would be as old as yoyo is now.

but i don't think i have the slightest idea how tough a newborn baby is going to be, obviously!
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We don't have human children unfortunately, but we've raised two puppies and they are a lot of work. Havs seem to remain puppy like for a long time. If it were me, I'd wait until my human child were older. If you get a puppy and then have your baby, guess which one goes bye bye or gets the short end of the stick if it turns out to be too be more work than you thought it would?
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding though!!

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Wow- buy stock in starbucks right now!!! <BG> I only have furkids but I can see how things could easily get overwhelming. I also really like that I put 2 years in between my furkids. I was able to really bond to each of the girls and have them trained the way I want before I had to concentrate on all the training that goes into the new puppy.

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Babies are a lot of work - moreso than your pup(s). When you have to spend an hour getting your baby ready just to leave the house and he/she ends up spitting up or having one of those really messy diapers that you have to go change and change his/her clothing too. The last thing you are going to want to deal with is a rambumctious pup that just snuck a pee on your carpet.

I'm foreseeing a recipe for frustration.

When you pack up Baby for a trip to Grandma's house (or Auntie's or whoevers) for an afternoon visit, do you leave two dogs home alone or do you take your one dog with you? It is much easier to take one dog, if you take any, when you have a baby.

Some people can handle it, but my advice would be to enjoy Yoyo now, and work with him on developing your bond together. When Baby comes around and joins the family, Yoyo will be a helper to you and will probably alert you of any of Baby's cries, etc. When Baby gets a bit older and is walking around comfortably and talking, and you know the load you can handle, you might want to revisit the thought.
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Having a new baby is stressful and exhausting. Your dog or dogs will suddenly go from "baby" status to "in the way". People add children to a house with dogs all the time though. Maybe having two dogs would make it easier on the dogs because they would have each other for company. I don't know. I'd think this through pretty carefully. It's a given that you will be devoting most of your time and attention to a newborn, and the dogs will get much less, and you will be tired! What can you reasonably handle? It's hard to know ahead of time-I know I had no clue!
Sounds like you have lots of exciting changes coming. Congratulations!

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If you really would like to have 2 dogs, have you considered getting an older (trained) Hav? Many breeders have older dogs that need a new home. Just a thought.

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Wow, this is REALLY hard. I'm all over the map with this one.

My first thought, is I honestly can't imagine having my two small dogs back when I had newborns. I know for a fact they wouldn't have gotten the attention they do now. Yes, now THEY are my "babies". If we had another newbie right now, yikes..they'd be devastated, lol. We had a big dog (golden retriever) while we were having babies, and he was GREAT. But, as much as we loved him and cared for him...he was more of a dog. He didn't sleep in our bed, didn't sit on our laps. He wasn't NEAR as demanding for attention as these two little yappers are I've seen so many pups end up at the shelter or advertised "free to good home", after babies arrive. Breaks my heart. Not saying that would happen to you, of course. Just that babies/kids turn a house upside down, even in families with the best of intentions.

Now, the other side of that. Maybe two dogs dealing with a new non fur sibling would handle the jealousy better if they had each other??
And not to be a negative..but I'd hate to see you hold off on getting another dog if that's what you want so bad. Because you have this plan of having a new baby in a yr. I'm VERY fortunate to have the four kids I have. But, I suffered yrs of infertility. I know there are other woman on this board that have as well. So, guess I'm saying realistically..as nice as a plan to have a baby in your arms by next April. It sadly doesn't always work out that way Statistcly, it can take months..or yrs.

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