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my dog doesn't like (most) men

yoyo has never, ever been abused by men but his behavior might make you think otherwise.

whenever we come upon new women or children or dogs, he's all happy and frisky and playful and wants to eagerly say "hello!" in that way that havs all do.

but when we meet a new man, he acts like he doesn't trust them. they will be all "hello puppy!" and he'll back off to the other direction. just the other day we met a man outside our apartment who said hello to yoyo and told me that he had two small dogs of his own. yoyo would have none of it and started "chuffing" (does that make sense?) at him, and i even saw some teeth!

it's mostly men that he does this too (although he's very affectionate with my DH) but we also met a woman who was trying to be friendly with yoyo but yoyo did the same thing as with the man, started chuffing and backing away.

what does this mean? is this unhealthy? should i try and "correct" this behavior? or should i just chalk it up to that sometimes dogs can sense things that we can't?
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Hmmmm...I don't have a good answer for you, but I do know what you mean by the "chuffing". Ollie was doing that when we put the cone on him.

One idea: maybe you could enlist some men yoyo doesn't know and have them offer some favorite treats to him sometime. It might even help to carry a few with you so you could allow strangers who show an interest to offer them??? It might help him start to see the world as a bit more friendly place.


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I wonder if a lot of it has to just do with the individual dog/. My Lily is the same way. When a strange woman comes near her, she will bark, but calm down quickly and accept her, but men, she will just bark and bark and bark. It takes her a long time to come around, and only if the man ignores her completely so she can watch him and see he does not mean harm. My other two babies welcome anyone!! I find that if she is kept on a leash when I know that strangers will be around, and I correct her with the leash when she barks. She seems to come around a lot quicker that way.

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It takes her a long time to come around, and only if the man ignores her completely so she can watch him and see he does not mean harm.
I watched Dog Whisperer for the first time the other day and Caeser dealt with a dog that also was fearful of men. He said men give off a different energy. This dog was crazy fearful of men and he just sat near the dog chatting with the owner. No eye contact with the dog, no touching, no talking to the dog. He said you had to allow the dog to be curious and get past that. He had treats but didn't give them right away and waited for the dog to just smell the treats on him, that made the dog more curious. Once the dog began to approach and touch him he would give a treat w/o making eye contact. He took it very slow with the dog and allowed the dog to make the first moves. Then he told the owner to enlist some of her male friends that could also do just like him and win the dog over.

I think since half the world is male it would be great to help your dog to accept both sexes.
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