It seems lately there have been a few members who have not been around as much. And we ALL miss them. It got me to thinking... and this place has grown really fast. We are so lucky that we have so many great CARING members!
I want us ALL to think about how we treat each other. At times we will disagree, its going to happen! And its impossible to have rules that say "Be Nice".. how hard is it to police that? Lets try to have respect for each other.
Before you type something that you KNOW might be in a controversial thread.. or even maybe taken the wrong way.. read it back to yourself out loud. Ask yourself... if you are another person who may not agree with you, how does your remark sound? It's hard to always know someones tone and intent through the written posts. However as posters, we can try and have RESPECT for our readers. That doesn't mean putting smiley faces after saying Go Screw yourself makes it ok... hahahaha
I am not even going to beat around the bush in this example.. Lets take the thread with Kristi and the puppy she didn't keep. I did not know the history of the situation as I had been MIA. I did not even READ ALL the posts. I only went there because I was told it was getting heated. I made a post that was really meant to be a general statement and not taking up for anyone, or directing it to anyone in particular. I should have read more and asked more questions and had others feelings in mind.. before making a general statement. Bad Melissa! However, that ONE thread... with a BRAND NEW MEMBER.. drove so many apart. So we have to ask ourselves why? Why were we so adamant to take this new persons side and turn our back on own forum members who we have grown to know and love? I think SO MANY things could have been handled different.
That NEW MEMBER even asked to be deleted. Instead of begging this new member to stay, we should have had our thoughts and concern with others who have been here for a LONG time and done many things to help needy dogs and needy people! They were only worried about this dog and wanted to help.. as they have in the past! Some of those people really felt insulted and looking back I KNOW WHY!
So lets show some love for our members who are here, both new and long term and tell them we appreciate them!! Just the ones that are taking a break.. look how much they have done for others since they have been there. I'm not going to name them, don't want to risk embarrassing someone or forgetting someone. Rescuing dogs, donations, quilts... there are so many things...
So before you post something.. just ask yourself... could someone be offended by this? It doesn't mean walk on egg shells and only post some happy lovey dovey stuff. Just use COMMON SENSE! We all appreciate everyones expert advice.. just remember not to belittle others when your giving it.
AND I hope this thread doesnt offend anyone.
Because that defeats the entire point! I have been guilty before.. and if I ever truely have a beef.. Im going to pm you before Ill post something. I usually am just in a hurry if I ever sound short. But I will be better.
OK PEEPS.... SHOW SOME LOVE!