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I want to be a good neighbor, but....
I have an escalating situation that I'm not knowing how to handle, and I'm hoping some of you might be able to make some suggestions.
We love our neighborhood! We (and one other couple) are the empty nesters of the neighborhood, having been here for a gazillion years, and having raised our kids here. Little by little, young couples have moved in with the most adorable children, and I really enjoy a good relationship with all of them (even with the family of the "killer chihuahua" who was running loose for awhile...they've really made good conscientious efforts to keep their pup on leash). The kids call me "Grandma Mo", they love Molly and Billy, and we have pleasant conversations every day as we walk our dogs (or the babies!)
Our next-door neighbor, owner of the Golden Retriever Charley, has been insinuating herself into our time outside...no matter when I go out with the dogs, she immediately lets Charley out...Charley BARKS like nuts because she wants to come and play, but she's not fond of Billy, and she's gotten kind of aggressive to the little guy. There's NO WAY I'll let any dog "bully" Molly and Billy. The fence is a chain-link, and aside from putting hedges in front of the fence, they can see us whenever we go outside. Charley has even dug a hole next to one section of the fence, and she actually makes it under the fence...I keep blocking it and filling the hole...I'm worried that Charley will get hurt (OR that Molly and Billy might suddenly think, "Hmmmmm...I didn't know we could do THAT!"
The neighbor has gotten pretty condescending and pushy, even going so far as to open OUR gate and letting Charley in as I'm working on the far side of the house. (Our gates are usually locked, but if I have to go back-and-forth to the garage, I leave the gate unlocked temporarily.) I like Charley, but she's not good with small dogs. I've explained to my neighbor what my concerns are, but she continues to insinuate into the situation and tells me that Charley is good with ALL dogs. I want to keep good relations with them, I've been truthful and direct with her, but she told ME that's not acceptable, and that Charley has a "RIGHT" to be here! ??????
Sorry this is so long, but I'm really troubled by this. I always aim to be kind, but I'm also not a push-over, though I do think she's mistaking my kindness as a weakness. Anyone ever have this situation? Thanks for the ear!
Last edited by Moko; 04-17-2008 at 08:22 PM.