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post #1 of 21 (permalink) Old 05-23-2008, 07:01 PM Thread Starter
 
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Sorry to Say it's not happening with the new pup after all

I should have held my tongue and not posted until I knew how this would shake out, but I was sure I was ready this time.

Between the breeder being a lot farther from my home than I thought, someone else (with 2 of her other Havs wanting that same dog), my work schedule which landed heavy for the weekend and make it near impossible to get the time off to travel, and feeling, after talking to her at length, some familiar hesitation about whether I am really, truly prepared to handle a puppy, I got cold feet for about the 10th time since I started this whole process and bowed out. That dog will probably have a better life with the other family. It's like the stress of that rescue dog fiasco really imprinted on me and I still can't shake it off.

I'm gonna disappear for awhile, no need to respond to this thread because I really don't even want to read follow-ups, I'm too darn sad about this whole thing, and I am going "off dogs" for awhile until I get some other areas of my life more in balance.

Thanks for all the great advice, though, it's been fun reading all the stories and seeing everyone's pics. I think a Hav is in my future at some point, just not right now.
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post #2 of 21 (permalink) Old 05-23-2008, 07:06 PM
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Oh, man. I understand your hesitation and the feeling that you need to step away for a while.

Whenever you are ready to come back, I'll be looking forward to seeing you here again.
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It takes a strong person to do what is right for them and their family, Kudos to you for not allowing puppy temptation make you do something you are not 100% ready for. Take some time for yourself and dont be a stranger, keep checking back in and let us know how things are going. Your time will come and we will all be here to help you celebrate.

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Oh, I'm sorry you had another let down. Give yourself some time, you'll figure it out. Then when you do, I hope you find the perfect companion! Good things come to those who wait, so relax~~good things ahead! Come back when you can, we're always here ready to talk.
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Great words everyone! Yes, kudos to you for being painfully honest about yourself and the situation. Can't wait to have you back at the forum and see that "meant to be dog" when the time is right. Best of luck.
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Hugs, Just remember good things come to those who wait It is hard to understand at the time but it will happen when the timing is right for both of you.

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Diane, sorry it didn't work out. But if that's of any help: in the last 20 years I've been THIS close to getting a dog several times and got cold feet the second it started getting serious. I, like you, had thought it all through many times and thought THIS time I'm ready. But hey, even though it took forever I finally WAS ready and got the perfect dog at the perfect time in my life. Everything happens for a reason. Hope you come back and just enjoy 'hanging out' with us even though you aren't getting a Hav yet. We all understand your hesitation and you are a very strong person to resist the huge temptation of a cute puppy. KUDOS

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I'm sorry it didn't work out this time but I really admire you for listening to your gut feelings. You'll know when the time is right for you. I can understand wanting to step away for awhile. Puppy pictures on this forum can be agonizing when you want a puppy but know that it's just not the right time yet. You'll get there and when you do, the perfect puppy or adult dog will be waiting for you.
Check in every now and again and let us know how you are.

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thanks everyone so much for the kind words. I was not going to check back, but you know, got the e-mail notice... and I'm glad I did. I am actually typing this through tears, I'm so disappointed that something I want so much is something I know I can't handle right now. I am 41 and don't have kids, and I think this is possibly a mothering issue, as well. My neighbor, Jill in MI, who I didn't know before "meeting" her here was particularly helpful, talked with me personally on the phone and was so reassuring that whatever decision I made, it was all OK. Maryam - in particular, I am glad to know that you were in the same position and finally "got there" and got your Hav. That does give me hope! I think I passed up a really gorgeous and wonderful dog, but I know she will have a good life with someone else. I never did post the link - she's at the bottom, they call her "Lynx." http://www.monarch-kennel.com/Vadapuppies.html I really liked this breeder a lot and hope I can check with her in the future when I'm truly ready. She spent a lot of time on the phone with me, so I hope she'll be willing to work with me again when I'm over my cold feet.

Thanks again for the kind words of support.
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Glad you checked back! You're right she's gorgeous. Do you want to know how many pictures of dogs I have saved and showed everyone when I thought I seriously found THE ONE? LOL, let's just say it was >5. You'll be able to enjoy your dog a lot more, when you know you got it at the right time. In retrospect, I'm very glad it happened the way it did and so will you. It's tough to get there though...Maybe you can visit Jill and puppy sit a few times?

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