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post #1 of 16 (permalink) Old 07-13-2008, 10:51 AM Thread Starter
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TOO attached???

Is it possible for our puppy to be too attached to one of us? Scooter whines, barks and cries when I leave a room. He'll sit at the gate, or try to jump over it, to get to me when he knows I'm upstairs or in another part of the house. When I'm up with him first in the morning he'll go to the gate and look up waiting for everyone else to get up but he doesn't jump over it or cry. At first we thought this was cute but now it's a bit disconcerting. I don't want him so attached to any of us that he's truly unhappy if I'm not around. Is there anything we should be doing? He loves all of us but with me he's giving new meaning to the term "velcro dog".
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Well, I've got no advice for you... but I'll be interested in the advice you do get. Roxie is sort or the same way! If I move, she moves! I find myself not wanting to get up and go do a little something in the next room if she's just settled in for a nap because I know she'll get up and follow me! I'm becoming a crazy dog person faster and faster!

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Scout was a little bit "needy" as a puppy and would whine if we weren't in sight too. Our breeder told us not to pick him up if he was actively whining so we didn't reinforce undesired behavior. You can wait until Scooter stops whining and then pick him up.

Another solution is to get a second Hav! Okay, perhaps that is a bit premature.

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Jane-that's what I told my DH but he didn't go for it! It was worth a try though.
Ann-I'm the same way! Scooter is napping next to me on the chair right now so I won't get up so as not to disturb him. I think I"m losing my mind! I'm definitely turning into one of those "dog people"!!! LOL

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Well, Lizzie is a big whiner and way too attached to me. I don't give into her whining or coddle her. She is fine as long as I am somewhere in her antenna range. The moment she can't sense me, she will sit and whine. Throught out the day, she needs her cuddles, she climbs into my lap, paws me to get her belly rubs or hugs.

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I take it that you are his main human to feed/walk/play with him right? If that is the case you may want to alter this by taking turn's with other family member's so he isn't just focused on one person for care. This worked with a couple of my dog's in the past and everyone got a turn at being the main person in that dog's life for a week at a time. Also allow's him to become use to changes in his life early on.

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Bella will turn one year on the 27th and she still wants to be with us but we can see the independance growing. She was 2 1/2 months old when we got her and for the first few days she would whine sitting on the floor next to us. It was so annoying that I wondered if we made the right decision in getting a dog!

Our trainer told us that puppies panic when they can't see their "food source" since they have the survival instinct. All of that behavior has mellowed the older she's gotten. He also told us to not give positive reinforcement when a negative behavior is displayed. He said a little dog is easily picked up but a big dog is just ignored, etc. Hope this helps.
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Cazzie is way too attached, primarily to me, secondly to DH. I have posted this before, but if he even *thinks* I'm getting ready to leave, he goes hyper, jumping, nipping at me and barking. When I was in the hospital he wet on the dining room carpet in several places to show his anxiety. He will sit on the bed for hours when we're gone, just staring out the window. This is why we are seriously thinking about getting another doggie. Cazzie is 15 months old now. In all other ways, he's wonderful.

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Dasher is a mama's boy (I want it this way!). Dora was a mama's girl until we moved to CA and then she became a Daddy's girl (he was home most of the day). Belle is equal opportunity! Belle became very bonded to my DH when they would run together. Even though I was her main caretaker- Daddy did her favorite activity with her- maybe you could try that?

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My last furbaby was all Mama's girl. I let her train me. The older she got the worse she got and ended up being snappy at all others. A friend told me one day -- "She thinks she is the boss...and you are her bone." I learned from my mistakes. Now things are done MY way and Cicero has became a sweet pleasure to have around. He get lots of attention from me during the day, but when DH or others come in I just ignore him and he then goes to them for attention. I want him to be an "everybody's dog" so we take turns taking him to potty, to feed, and to brush. And he became the "invisible dog" if he whins, barks, paws me, jumps on me to get my attention!! I DON'T SEE A DOG - I DON'T HEAR A DOG - I DON'T FEEL A DOG -- I DON'T EVEN HAVE A DOG!!!! Then when he is calm and relaxed, I pick him up and act like I just found the greatest gift ever. This has worked great for us.


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