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post #1 of 9 (permalink) Old 09-11-2008, 08:52 PM Thread Starter
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spending time with one

first, let me say that i love having 2 havs.

but i sometimes miss spending time just with mugs and would also like some one on one time with kaylie.
but i not only feel badly about leaving one behind but it's it's near impossible to separate them. if one goes into another room the other always follows. and if i change rooms they both follow me.

what to do?

how do those with 2 handle this or is not really a concern for others?


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Well, the obvious answer is add a third!!!

When I had just the two, I usually would make sure DH was home with the other one, or I felt guilty leaving someone behind to just run errands, etc. But for training, I work them against each other and put one in the crate where they can see me work with the other. That is the best form of motivation!

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Joe, that's exactly how it is at my house. They are attached at the hip and then velcrowed to me. IMHO you should be happy they are so bonded. Even though you are the one they both want to be with, when you are gone they are still happy together. The best of both worlds, so to speak.
Sometimes I really want to give all my love to one and it is hard. Especially if you live alone. I can take one with me in the car if DH is home with the other one.

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oh, i am happy that they enjoy each other so much and i would never want that to change.
but i do live alone and so one of them would be alone if i took the other out for a walk and i would be feeling guilty about that, doing something mostly for my own pleasure. seems selfish.

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Do you have a dog-less friend who might like to spend an hour or two with one of your babes, while you took the other for some quality time with you? This would be good for the dog that was not with you too probably. It might not be spontaneous, but still.... I know before we had Roxie we LOVED visiting the neighbor dogs during the day when mom and dad were at work.

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two to tango...

I had Riki first, so I can take Daisy places and he doesn't get hysterical...and he doesn't mind going off with me. He does look for her though.

When Daisy is alone without him, she gets very depressed when we are out of the house and hysterical looking for him when he is the one not home. She makes this weird cry. She has only known her mom and siblings and being with Riki. She has never been an only dog, except for the week of her spay when Riki went to stay at a friends house for a week so as not the get her running around the house so she could recover.

We took her to Eukanuba alone and she lay on the table seriously depressed. She didn't perk up until we saw him at home.

When I do training I have to put one of them in the crate because they try to outdo each other for my attention! But I can go out of the house and not worry that they are experiencing separation anxiety...they have each other.

They hardly play with other dogs at all now...they are such best buddies, even other havanese!

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It is probably a good time for you to start taking each dog out with you alone, and start them getting use to it, just for short periods of time...teach them that sometimes it happens that one is left home alone.

I found with my two, each of them likes the alone time with me. I take Casper for short walks 5-15 minutes alone, and with Missy I take her to dog training for dog shows without Casper. The first time I left, I hated leaving Casper alone, but I gave him a Kong with his favorite filling and left, we were gone about 1 1/2 hrs. He was fine, and Missy loves the time alone with me.

Missy now gets really excited when she knows we are going to leave together and Casper will stay home alone.

I had dogs for years, this is my first time having two dogs at the same time, so I am learning also, but I think alone time with each one is important to bonding to the dog and making them feel loved and important.
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Joe, there is no reason you can't walk one at a time. It's okay to leave one at home while you walk the other. I do that with mine and sure, the one left behind isn't totally happy, but the one on the walk sure is.
They need to learn that it's okay to be left behind once in awhile. What if someday one of the dogs need overnight veterinary care...(which I hope never happens).


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Joe, the only thing I have been able to manage alone (without my DH home) is to take them for short walks...Jasper loves walks and Cash not so much...So Cash just gets a quick potty break and Jasper gets a one on one walk. It is something you should get them used to...in case you need to take one to the vet and not the other or some other thing that would cause you to separate them... Oh I sometime sneak Jasper upstairs for a game of tug the sock off my hand while Cash is zonked out on the floor...But that only happens because DH stays downstairs. And Jas doesn't like to play, so Cash gets one on one games of Fetch and Jas just watches... I think you have to look for things that each likes and the other doesn't and then you can play with them one on one. I think the pups really love the one on one time and who ever got the extra attention usually humps the other-- as if to say---"ha ha she loves me more than you..." but then they get a stern NO and all is even again.

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