Because I'm still upset about something that happened last week, I thought I'd get some opinions. Hoping, someone will ease my mind and I can let it go.
My cousin, dh, 3 kids, dog and 2 cats came to stay with my parents last wk, as they were evacuated from Tx due to Ike. They have a 1 yr old Boston Terrier. I went to see them at my parents, and the dog was all over me. In my lap, licking me, jumping on me..etc. My cousin let her do it because she said that's what happened last time she came to visit from my dogs. "payback". She also knew that I'd love on her, and have no problem with the attention. She's a sweet pup. Her dh wasn't around at the time. But, I was surprised this dog behaved this way. Like...a dog. He made all kinds of comments about my dogs last time, how they needed to be trained better, etc.
Well, they came over later that night and of course mine were all over them. Barking, jumping on everyone. Thrilled to see the kids. Her dh instantly grabbed the closest dog (daisy, I think) by the scruff of the neck, turned her over on her back and held here there for a min. Then grabbed Bodie..and then Cooper (all by the neck) Guess he wanted to show them who was boss?? I don't know..but, it annoyed the heck out of me. I grabbed Daisy and put her in my room. When I came back in the living room, he had sat down on the couch. And Cooper jumped up on him. Before I could get over to them, he had Cooper dangling in the air, by the scruff of his neck, then turned him over like he'd done mins. before.
I didn't know what to say. So, I just put them all in the other room.
Next day, I went to my mom's again. Their dog ran to me, and was stopped in it's tracks by my cousin..by the scruff of the neck, again. Dog twisting and turning. I snapped, and told her I thought it was inhumane. And I got "all that extra skin, it doesn't hurt". I don't know. Does it?? She had her 4 ft in the air, walked her outside and dumped her on the lawn like that.
Later, I was trying to get Gidget to sit. Cousin's dh said you have to snap your fingers, point at her, then he told her to "sit" in this horrible, deep, mean voice. Um, yea..nice.
I didn't let them back over the next two nights. Because I didn't want them around my dogs. Was I wrong to get upset? Is this a normal way of training, i don't know about??