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New member but with concerns
Well, I know this is a joyful, wonderful forum & I am so sorry to introduce myself w/concerns...however, I got a darling, lovely havanese puppy almost 3 weeks ago but I just feel like he has not bonded with me properly.
He is an incredible dog and when I take him to the park every day everyone remarks on how amazing he is. He is joyful and friendly with everybody, he plays w/all the dogs, even nervous dogs - and the dogs' owners are often amazed their dog is getting along so well with another dog. He runs up to children, and causes a total commotion with how cute and delightful he is. People say he is the cutest, best dog they've ever seen and what an amazing personality he has.
HOWEVER, alone w/me he just seems sort of disinterested and it is beginning to break my heart. He is kind of independent (which is good don't get me wrong) - but he spends his time putting things together and taking them apart, wandering around and finding stuff to do (much of which is very funny). But he actually sort of ignores me. He won't sit on my lap or 'shadow' me - although he did for the first week or so, when everything was new.
I am just not sure what to do . I feel he would be happiest in a big and humming household, but at the moment it is just him and me. I got him online and I just can't help but feel that he didn't choose me. When he naps it is usually a few feet away from me and not at my feet. I feel like I have definitely made tons of mistakes these past 3 weeks but still - this is really concerning me.
Examples of mistakes are giving him a bath sort of abruptly, without much warning - not having a consistent schedule (which I am fixing) - experimenting w/different approaches to using the leash, etc. etc. In case anybody is wondering I have never yelled at him or gotten angry or anything like that. To be honest I have been sort of anxious and nervous and would not be surprised if he picked up on it and was just not drawn to the energy.
There are some people he sees and goes crazy w/excitement. With me he wags his tail and jumps up and down but it seems pretty low-key, except for the couple of times that I had him crated. Then he went berzerk from being happy to see me.
So...what do I do? I am quite sure he is capable of a deep bond with his owner but maybe I am not the right person for him?
Perhaps I should mention he is a slightly older puppy. 5 months old.
Last edited by Eloise; 01-14-2009 at 03:28 AM.