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post #1 of 4 (permalink) Old 04-08-2014, 11:44 AM Thread Starter
Jen, Timmy and Mae
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Over Bonded?

Is that even a term? I've done my best to try and give Mae and Tim time with only me either on walks or errands. Recently I signed Mae up for classes as well as Tim so each of them are by themselves during those days for about 3 hours. Over this past weekend I took Mae for a long walk and decided to leave her at home with DH and DD while I took Tim out for lunch with me. When I leave Mae by herself it's usually just me at home so she is really alone but this must have been the first time I've left her with someone home and they said she howled at the door the whole time Tim and I were gone. She LOVES her brother, which is great, but now I'm concerned that if something ever happens that Tim can't be around she'll be a basket case. I guess I need to try and get a family member to take Tim out by himself and see how she does with just me home without him. Whenever I return home she does seem VERY happy to see us and will usually go over to Tim before me which I never really thought about. I know I can set up my iCam when she is left alone but I'm sure she's probably howling then too, so I'm not sure I want to have to watch that. Anyone have any pups who they had to work with to alleviate this dependency, or have I missed the boat on this being an easy correction? I will continue to leave her by herself but will she ever be less upset with Tim's absence over time or will this just be one of those things that she'll have to deal with? She seems no worse off upon our return, no accidents in her crate, drooling and no lingering effects once she's back with him so I guess I should be thankful for that. I guess the bottom line is she would much rather be with Tim then not and that's her kind of temper tantrum. I guess I should add that Tim has no problems being without Mae but he started out that way and honestly he probably likes not being bugged.

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Back to basics I think; just disappear with Tim for 5 mins and then come back, gradually increasing the period. I had to do this with Charlie and with persistence it paid off.

The other thing I have learnt is that Charlie registers different types of "going out". After the above training, he's now quite happy when I go out through the internal garage door, start the car and drive off. But evidently if I go out through the front door he whines for a while and sits by the door waiting. And woe betide if I go out through the side door and the garden gate - our normal entry and exit for walks; he howls and barks! Must admit I've mostly given in and always go out through the garage now, even if I'm walking somewhere
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I am going to start leaving her for shorter periods now that the weather is getting nicer. I will have an opportunity to do this a few times a day when I go outside to train with Tim, something I wished I could do before but we had a foot of snow. I think she's a stubborn, spoiled princess, and is having a temper tantrum so I'm okay with some tough love in the beginning.

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Get a third, then they always have one of their buddies with them.

I can't leave my alone without another dog. They scream and fuss too.

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