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post #1 of 18 (permalink) Old 03-26-2009, 10:00 PM Thread Starter
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I just got a call from my best friend. We've been friends since 3rd grade. Well, she is an animal lover and has had Westies, her latest one is Snowy. She has another dear friend who is probably going into hospice care very soon, so she has agreed to take the friend's dog. It is a 3yr old Shih Tzu name Bebe.

Bebe is going to be going thru major changes beginning Sat, when she arrives from Las Vegas. Bebe is afraid of dogs and cats and my friend has one of each. She knows this is not going to be an easy transition for Bebe or for her. She has agreed to take the dog with mixed emotions. That said, any suggestions or advice on what she can do to make this pup more at ease? Laurie, hoping for some guidance from you and anyone else who might have had a similar situation.


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Hi Michele,
Isn't is great to have friends we have had for so long, I have one since 2nd grade, we grew up on the same block.

I would suggest that your friend try really hard to keep a positive attitude, this is the way it is going to be attitude with the animals, so they will accept the situtation. If they feel she is unsure and not accepting the situation it will be harder.

In my years with animals I have put dogs and cats together that did not want to be, but it seemed like it took sometime, but the realized they had to live under one roof so may the best of it and accepted it.

Hope, that helps...
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So sad Michele, I hope it all works out ok.

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I don't have advice for this situation but how sad that her friend is going into hospice! It is wonderful that she can take Bebe, and I'm sure this will really help ease her friend's mind, since she is an animal lover. I'm sure Bebe will adjust in time. Shih Tzu's are so cute.
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OK, I'm no expert...just recalling some things from Dog Whisperer and It's Me or The Dog.

Calm energy is the key. When she introduces Bebe to her dog(s)? she needs to make sure both are in a calm, not excited state. Hopefully butt sniffing will follow and they can get acquainted. Another good way to make friends is to take them both for a brisk walk, get them into the zone to help them get rid of any excitement or fear with the first meeting.

As far as the cat goes...Does Bebe try to avoid or attack? If she avoids but the cat still goes after her, you should step in and protect Bebe's space. Then she will see you as a calm assertive pack leader. If Bebe has a high pray drive, you may want to start with the cat in a crate and try to get Bebe to lay down close to it, first making sure she is in a calm state. That way they can get used to eachother's smells in a calm setting. Alternately, I've seen Victoria Stillwell use food. Anytime the cat is in the room with Bebe you could say "look, kitty" and give her a treat. Pretty soon she will understand that when kitty is around, good things happen. Or, you could use distraction, get her to play with a toy if she gets nervous while kitty is around.

Just some ideas...hope it all works out well. And remember, if your friend is fearful, or imagines some bad scenarios, success is less likely. If she envisions what she wants to happen and stays calm and assertive, the animals will respond better with that energy.

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Could she send a box of her normal stuff- favorite pillow, toys, etc with his normal scents already on them? I think that helps when we travel, I always take a blanket and my pups are often found snuggling on it.

Also I always think it helps to start introduction on neutral territory. Last month, had afriend come to visit with a rescue dog and she was suppose to call me when she got here, and instead she opend the door and came in with this dog. Dasher even my most easy going submissive dog chased him the entire time he was here. It turned into a game of my 3 chasing him and being mean to him (someone should have told him he was 10 times their size easily!) My guys are way more hyper and dominant if a dog (or person for that matter) walks into their home. Where as if they meet them down the road on a walk, they don't act the same way. It would help start everything off on a good foot so no one is territorial right thru the door.

If things dont work out, she could always consider a shih tzu rescue too. I always think if something happened to me and I didn't have anyone, HRI would be excellent at placing my pups.

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Thanks guys. Love all the suggestions and I will pass them on to her. The situation is so miserable, because this woman's brother will not even send a leash with the dog. He even had the nerve to call and tell my friend he wants the $100 for the plane fare. So poor Bebe will be going to a new place, with none of her familiar things. My friend was set to go out there in a few weeks to visit and bring the dog back with her, but this jerk of a brother wouldn't wait. He's just mad that he's not executor of the will. I wonder why this surprises him?!


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Does your friend have another friend or the executor that could send some of BEBE'S stuff? Some people are so mean. You are a dear friend to take this on. God bless you.

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Katrina, good idea. I'm going to call my friend and tell her to call the sister involved. Maybe she will make sure something familiar travels with Bebe. Not only does Bebe's humom have to face her death, she is even more upset that she is leaving her furbaby. I'm so glad my friend has decided to take her and I will be there every step of the way to make it easier for all concerned.

Thanks so much for all the help.


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That guy is a jerk for taking his anger out on a defenseless little dog. That poor dog is going to be wondering what's going on! How nice that your friend is taking her in, very sweet! I hope she settles in well.

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