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post #1 of 20 (permalink) Old 03-30-2009, 05:02 PM Thread Starter
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I want to thank everyone on the forum for helping me out and I'm really sorry will have to wait a bit for a puppy. I want one so bad after seeing and hearing about all yours but I have to be practical. My sister has had cancer twice and how has a broken pelvis and they are doing testing. Her husband just had a 2nd heart attack. I visited him today as he was put temporarily in a nursing home. He has dimentia really bad, he was always forgetful but this is really bad, we are hoping he gets back to where he was. Long term prognosis for him is not good. My sister is 16 years older than me. I have to wait till this settles and we know what's what, it wouldnt be fair to myself or the puppy to rush into anything. My brother is only other sybling and he is blind, and my sister has been a great support to me so I have to be there for her. She doesnt even know how to pump gas in her car lol. Once things settle down a puppy would be a great thing for all of us but gonna have to wait a bit. I'm really sorry to everybody for pushing so hard for a puppy but I really do want one soooo bad (but not yet:). Hope I can train the puppy to be a therapy dog cause my family can use one. I feel guilty for being so healthy .

I'm gonna stay away from the forum (and the web in general) for a while, too much like looking in a candy store and not being able to have any candy.

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Mike, I'm so sorry to hear this - I know you are so excited about getting a puppy but we know that our family has to come first. I hope things work out well for your sister and her husband. You are being such a good brother. Hope to see you again soon.

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Oh, Mike, such a rush of bad luck. So sorry to hear of all your family troubles. It would have been great to have a precious little hav already settled in, to give you some warmth and distraction. But it does make sense to wait until you can give the puppy all the attention it needs without being torn or feeling guilty.

I hope you STAY healthy, so you can be of support to your family. Take care, and don't stay away. You'll be all the better prepared when the time is right. No apologies are needed here.

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Mike, I am sorry for all the personal issues and think you are making a very wise move. Family does come first, and you would be short changing the puppy and your time of enjoyment. You can still "lurk" on the site to get your mind off things when you need to . . . unless it makes the IWAP problem too intense. I did not find the site until after I got Jackson . . . you at least know where to come for help when the right time comes. May the next couple of months go smoothly for you.

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I understand your decision...there are just times in our lives where it seems things are overwhelming....

Hugs and prayers for you and your family

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Best wishes to you and your family... It seems that you have made the right decision to not rush into things. I hope your troubles calm down soon and we'll be hearing back from you.
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Mike, I'm sorry that your plans have been put on hold and that things haven't been going so well for your sister. When it's meant to be, you'll find your perfect puppy, I'm sure. And, we'll be waiting for you here at the Havanese Forum.

Hope things get better for you and your family soon.

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you'll know when it's time. Don't feel bad because I did the same thing last year, asked a lot of questions here, announced a puppy was coming - (twice), and then couldn't go through with it. Everyone was very supportive. It'll happen for you when it's meant to. There will always be more cute puppies and plenty of opportunities when you pick up the search again. Sounds like your family needs you more right now.
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Mike you have so much on your plate. I am so sorry. A puppy decision can wait absolutely.

Hope things get better very, very soon.
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Mike, I am sorry that you are going through a difficult time. Wish you and your family all the best.

When the time is right, you will have a sweet, cute Hav furball in your arms. I hope and pray that things will be better soon for all of you.

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