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I know this is a bit of a morbid and sad topic, but I wanted to get some feedback from people who have had to put down their dogs due to illness. My husband's parents have a Beagle who was diagnosed with cancer back in December. Unfortunately, the treatment did not help him and I'm pretty sure he's dying. He's lost about 8lbs now because he doesn't really eat much anymore. As of last week, he's stopped walking. He doesn't do anything anymore; he only lies there. It breaks my heart. My husband is very close to the dog and he visits him everyday. I've told him that I don't think he's going to get better and that the poor guy should be put out of his misery. But I think him and his family don't want to; they keep thinking that what if he gets better? Should I just not say anything anymore? I don't want to sound mean by insisting they should put him down; at the same time I hate to think that the dog is in pain or suffering in any way
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sorry to hear this. Yeah it's tough to watch, the vet should say something, this really makes it a little easier. Hugs to you and yours.

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I wish the vet would. I don't think she has, though. I don't know why. At this point he's having to go get his nutrients through an IV. At home he doesn't eat much and the last few days they've been opening his mouth and giving him liquids with a syringe. Just typing this makes me get teary-eyed.
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yes it's time.

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Dogs know when it's time, and they stop eating. Most of our farm dogs left during the night when we knew the time was close, and we never saw them again in spite of looking over a couple of hundred acres. My Mother said they ascended into heaven.

Unfortunately, this is a hard part about being a good guardian. When you know they are not coming back, and are suffering, it's time to end their suffereing.
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I am so sorry to hear about the situation your family is going through. It is so tough to say goodbye. Have you asked when they know it would be time to say goodbye? Maybe they might identify some of the things that are going on to help them realize it really is time. I know it is a decision I do not envy or look forward to with any pet.

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I am so sorry to hear about the situation your family is going through. It is so tough to say goodbye. Have you asked when they know it would be time to say goodbye? Maybe they might identify some of the things that are going on to help them realize it really is time. I know it is a decision I do not envy or look forward to with any pet.
I talked to my husband yesterday and I asked him why they're waiting when it's obvious his quality of life is really low and he's not getting better. He said they're afraid to make that call because what if he is going to get better. I mean, I don't know how to reason with him because he clearly is not thinking with his head. I suppose a miracle could happen, but the chances of him making a comeback are very small. I guess they're in denial??
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It is such a difficult thing to do. But, it is also the most loving, selfless thing one can do for a beloved pet. I suggest that you or your husband let his parents know that you are available to drive them WHENEVER they feel the time is right. That way they can hold and comfort their pet without worrying about driving to the vet. You could also volunteer to make the vet appt. on their behalf because it is sometimes difficult for those closest to the pet to even make the call to the vet.

His parents might feel better simply taking the dog back to their vet and asking if he/she believes the animal is in pain or suffering. They can still make the decision to return home, but may be in a better position to decide if the time is right. Also, if they have never made the decision to put an animal to sleep, it might be helpful for them to learn that the doctor can give the dog a sedative and allow them to spend time petting and talking to the dog before giving the injection that will take them into a peaceful sleep.

Since the dog has cancer, it is likely that the dog's refusal to eat or walk is a real indication that the dog is at the end of his life, and will not be getting better. Again, their vet can help them make this determination. Give them all the support they need to help them provide their beloved beagle with a peaceful end. I pray they will know when the time is right.
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Perhaps you could make an appointment with the vet and you and your husband could go and have a straight forward talk. Ask the vet about the odds of this poor little man getting better and if he is in pain going through this. Ask the tough questions. At this point is it more for the humans than the dog to allow him to go on like this?







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Just be supportive and let them come to the decision in their own way. When this happened to my first dog as an adult, I could not put him down. In my case my dog was not that old and I was not mentally ready to lose him. When the vets (specialist, regular vet) told me he was beyond saving and it was a matter of time I did all I could. I also made sure to take him to all of the places he loved. He started to go downhill and get worse and worse and I took him to the vet for IV and to see if there was anything they could do for him. They called me and told me he was not likely to live and I should put him down. I could not do it. I took him home - I really dont know what i was thinking I was going to do - I guess I was thinking of myself but I just couldnt let him go. He died that night. I was holding him and he was in his bed at peace. I guess I just didnt feel like I could make that decision. I am sure it would have been easier to do it in the vets office...but I just couldnt.
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