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I have the exact same issue with Marble. I've heard that Hav's can sometimes become more attached to one person, primarily the one who feeds, trains, and does most of the caretaking. From day one, Marble has followed me everywhere around the house, lays under my chair, outside the bathroom door, etc. It can develop into separation anxiety or future problems, so I would work hard to make sure this doesn't happen now. My kids, too, are very gentle and loving and were very hurt that he always chooses and follows me. If I left the house, he would whine and wait by the door, even if they tried to play with him. I can now leave the house for a couple of hours at most, but I do have to leave treats to distract him. It has been a long journey, so you may want to take steps now to make sure Zeplin bonds with everyone and doesn't panic when you leave.
I have had my kids try to feed him whenever they're here, take him outside, do little training sessions with treats and randomly give him small treats if he stays in their room. I will also leave him in their room with the door closed (only way to prevent him from following me) for small periods of time. My kids are older, though, (12 and 17) so that may not be an option for you yet. I think the more your kids are involved with Zeplin, the more he will be willing to spend time with them. It does take time, though, so tell your middle one to hang in there. Oh, and I read that your DH will be with him while you're at work starting Wed. This may really help balance Zeplin out early on, so he will get more used to your DH and kids. I know it will be hard to leave him, though. Good luck. I love the name Zeplin, by the way.