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post #1 of 48 (permalink) Old 09-19-2009, 11:49 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy Saying Goodbye to Cricket

I've been putting off posting this thread because I'm not sure how it will be received. You all are such great, dedicated Hav owners, and I know that you're fiercely loyal to this wonderful breed. After weeks of debating in my own mind what to do, I finally decided to rehome Cricket. Not an easy decision, I can assure you. We've had many annoying little problems with her that I can overlook. I don't think potty training was ever going to happen, and I don't know if I could have figured out the marking issue, but those are things I was willing to deal with. Even after she escaped the ex-pen and peed on my table, and even though that really pissed me off, I wouldn't have dreamed of letting her go. The snapping at my children, Piper in particular, is the behavior that made me make this difficult decision. My daughter is 100% an animal person. Instead of playing with dolls, she plays with our pets. They are her students in her pretend school. She reads to them, walks them, feeds them...she is totally involved with them. On more than one occasion, she's gotten nipped by Cricket, and every time it was a totally random act...I never saw any behavior by Piper that would have provoked the quick snarl and bite. I think that Cricket's origins, mixed with our busy family, just isn't an ideal mix.

I found her new home through a wonderful friend that I met on this forum, and Cricket is going to her new home tomorrow. I think that she will be going into a home that will be better for her. I have such mixed emotions...I really do believe that I'm making the right decision for my family, but I'm incredibly sad and I know that tomorrow is going to be a really hard day. It's hard to describe, but I feel like an abject failure and really embarrassed for not being able to make this work. I know I'll miss her terribly, but I won't miss worrying about the things she does or might do. That probably doesn't make much sense, but I'm finding it really hard to put this into words.

I felt like I had to tell you guys since you were with me from the beginning, and I've learned so much from you and rely on this forum for advice and even though I never met any of you, I consider you my friends.

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post #2 of 48 (permalink) Old 09-20-2009, 12:14 AM
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Your sadness can be felt even through your words. I'm sending you a hug.

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Kim, I am so very sorry it didn't work out for you and that you and your family are having to go threw this.

I do understand just how you feel because before I found the Havanese, I choose a breed that just wasn't right for us. I was embarrassed and felt like a failure even though I knew I was making the best decision.

You are doing the right thing for yourself, your kids and for Cricket too. Don't beat yourself up over it. Trust yourself. This isn't a snap decision and you've really tried. You've also put effort into finding Cricket a good home now and that's a really important thing too.

I know when the rescue group came to pick up my dog Jake, I cried and cried and wondered what I had done when he was gone, but still I knew it was best for everyone.

It's brave to make some choices that are so hard. I know you didn't take it lightly.


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Kim, I am so sorry to hear about you giving Cricket up. I can tell by your post that this must be heartbreaking for you. I'm glad, however, that you found her a good home and a place where she will hopefully be happier. I really don't know what else to say as I know just how sad I would be if I were in your position.

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I'm so sorry, Kim, that it didn't work out for Cricket and your family. I'm sure it was an incredibly hard decision and I hope everything will work out for Cricket and her new family...and yours. Thanks for letting us know. We will miss you!

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Bless your heart...

Tough decision, made with your heart and family to consider. May you get lots of love from those who care about you most right now.

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Kim- I too can fell the sadness in your post. But only you know the right decisions for your family. I am sure this was a hard decision for you, and one not made lighty. I bet the next few days will be 'strange' for you without her around. I will be thining of you, and I hope that Cricket works out in her new home!
Do you think you will get another Havanese? They all have such different personalities/temperments I hope you will give them another try someday!

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Kim, I agree with everyone else. How wonderful that you found a good home for Cricket with someone you trust. (((hugs)))

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post #9 of 48 (permalink) Old 09-20-2009, 05:43 AM
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Your post sounds so sad, only you know what's best for your family and for Cricket. Sounds like she'll be happier in your friend's home and that should give you some peace of mind. We love these dogs dearly but they are still animals and we can't always figure out what's going on with them. Biting children would have to be a deal breaker, that's scary.

I hope you'll be able to keep in touch with Cricket's new family so you can check up on her. Don't beat yourself up over this, take care.

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Oh Kim, I'm so sorry. I think you are making the right decision though. Your children always have to come first and you found Cricket a new home, so you've done what you can.

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