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post #1 of 27 (permalink) Old 03-21-2012, 06:54 PM Thread Starter
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Help! Should I get a 2nd Hav?

I need help! I'm conflicted about whether I should get a 2nd Hav to keep my Leyla company while I'm at work. She's alone about 8hrs a day and is pretty well-adjusted, but I feel so guilty! Can her being alone for that amount of time harm her psychologically? I would love to hear from all of you guys. Please help me make the right decision for Leyla. Thank you.
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I always had one dog at a time, till I wound up with 4 once (long story). After that I decided I'd never (if I was able) have only one again. Their lives were so much better, having each other. I, too, worried about leaving one alone while I worked. When there were two, it felt better.

However, only you can make the decision about what works for you life. Be honest with yourself about whether you're prepared to add that additional responsibility in your world. Whatever your choice, it will be the right one for you. In the end, go with your gut.

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My last dog was a rescued Doberman. While he loved loved loved people (especially all my girlfriends) he didn't care for other dogs. I don't think he ever learned to play with them. In that case, even though I work during the day the best thing I could do for him was to give him a one-dog household.

That said, I will have my two new Hav puppies in one week! They are littermate brothers (Tango and Cash). When I finally decided that I wanted to have a dog in my life again, my one hangup was that I was feeling guilty about leaving a dog home alone while I was working.

My long winded answer? Most dogs probably get a huge benefit from having another dog buddy to be with when we have to be away making money for them. Now that I have made the decision to have two, and have watched them be together, I couldn't imagine taking only one out of the litter.
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How old is your Leyla? We have had our second, Aries, for about a month now, Sonic was 10 months when we got her. I really think it has been amazing for him to have the constant companionship of Aries. It's a lot more work for you though, also remember no two dogs are a like. Sonic has the absolute perfect personality, loves everyone and everything and listens great, picks up training quickly and is very much my baby boy. Aries on the other hand is Miss Independent. She still loves people and animals but is a lot shyer about it and only listens when she wants. She's also very mouthy and bossy, or as a lot of people say she's very female. I love both my dogs very much am and glad we made the decision to get Aries. I also feel like our timing was pretty good, they both have adjusted very quickly and are the best of friends.

You just have to evaluate your circumstances and Leyla's and determine if a second dog is right for you. Good luck with whatever you decide!

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Leyla will be 10months old in another week. I try to imagine what having 2 Havs would be like but I can't. I also only had one child so there's nothing I can refer back to. Ahh!
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Leyla will be 10months old in another week. I try to imagine what having 2 Havs would be like but I can't. I also only had one child so there's nothing I can refer back to. Ahh!
I totally relate to having only one child and not totally understanding how I'd divide my love between two dogs. I didn't think I could. And after getting Charlie I learned that I cannot divide my love. I love them both equally. My love just doubled. When I see Lucy I think she's my favorite, and then Charlie walks in the room and he's my favorite. It's a real cool experience to have two fur-children and finally know what it feels like to love two equally!

Now, to your question...I have asked myself why we decided to get another Hav. Lucy was just seven months old when we got Charlie who was just three months. The last two months have been crazy and a LOT of work. They are a lot more noisy and strew a lot more toys all over. I go outside twice as much and use twice as many poop bags. Food goes twice as quickly and Vet bills are astronomical! Two young puppies are VERY expensive when it comes to vet bills.

But there are twice as many kisses and smiles. Never a time when you can sit down by yourself without a dog in your lap soon, sometimes two dogs.

There have been times I have wondered if Lucy would have preferred to be an only child, she's such a princess. But when I watch her play and run around with Charlie I can tell she likes him.

Go for it if you're willing to put in the work. And after typing that I realize some of you told me the same thing a few months ago and I had no idea what you were really talking about. HA! If we knew where we were going, we'd probably never go there, but we'd never get where we are either.

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I totally relate to having only one child and not totally understanding how I'd divide my love between two dogs. I didn't think I could. And after getting Charlie I learned that I cannot divide my love. I love them both equally. My love just doubled. When I see Lucy I think she's my favorite, and then Charlie walks in the room and he's my favorite. It's a real cool experience to have two fur-children and finally know what it feels like to love two equally!

Now, to your question...I have asked myself why we decided to get another Hav. Lucy was just seven months old when we got Charlie who was just three months. The last two months have been crazy and a LOT of work. They are a lot more noisy and strew a lot more toys all over. I go outside twice as much and use twice as many poop bags. Food goes twice as quickly and Vet bills are astronomical! Two young puppies are VERY expensive when it comes to vet bills.

But there are twice as many kisses and smiles. Never a time when you can sit down by yourself without a dog in your lap soon, sometimes two dogs.

There have been times I have wondered if Lucy would have preferred to be an only child, she's such a princess. But when I watch her play and run around with Charlie I can tell she likes him.

Go for it if you're willing to put in the work. And after typing that I realize some of you told me the same thing a few months ago and I had no idea what you were really talking about. HA! If we knew where we were going, we'd probably never go there, but we'd never get where we are either.

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The more dogs you have the more selective you need to be when you add another. I personally do not feel it is harder or that they are wanting in the love department, there are many pluses; When I board the they can be together, when I leave they can be together the benefits go on. It mostly depends on you and the commitment your willing to make. Puppies are often easier to bring into the family, an older dog has many benefits but really needs to be a good fit.

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I am also considering getting another Hav. My Toby is 11 months old and although I am home all day, everyday, I think his life would be much more fun with a playmate. That means, of course, basically starting over. Toby is all housebroken, sleeps with us, and is a regular member of the household now...and then to start over with a 9-10 week puppy? Eikes!
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That means, of course, basically starting over. Toby is all housebroken, sleeps with us, and is a regular member of the household now...and then to start over with a 9-10 week puppy? Eikes!
This is how we were with Sonic as well... And it is really starting all over again, Sonic even had an accident in the house the other day when he had been accident free for months and months. Sonic still sleeps with us too and Aries is crated beside the bed (we are having a really hard time housebreaking her). Sonic will always go over and check on her at night time before he settles down beside me. The good thing is the breeder had already done amazing getting Aries crate trained and she only whined a few minutes the first night. It does not seem to bother her at all that Sonic is in bed and she can't be yet.

But overall I think Sonic is much happier, more active and even slightly less dependent on me since we got Aries. He used to demand attention constantly in the evenings, whether tossing a toy or just snuggling to be petted. Now he runs around with Aries and then curls up in my lap to nap when he's tired. They even take turns on who gets the premium lap spot for naps. They are just too darned cute together.

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