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Getting puppy use to being alone, help!

Me and my husband just recently got our first pup, Zoey she's just over 8 weeks old. We have her sleeping in her crate at night time on a chair at the bedside and she seems to be doing great with that, so far no messes in her crate and she sleep anywhere between 6-7 hours straight, a few whimpers here and there but she's fine otherwise. The problem I am having is that my husband and I both work, shift work that is, although I have been able to take about a week off to be with the puppy when we first brought her home, our schedules work out well and she won't be left for more then 2-3 hours at a time, plus we have friends that can come and play with her if she might be. I tried leaving her in her crate today when I drove my husband to work and then went to the grocery store total time about 30 mins, when I came home she was crying quite loud and i noticed her towel I left in the crate looked like it had been scratched to death, since I was home I let her out and brought her straight outside but she didn't pee or poop, brought her inside and she fell asleep at my feet. I want to start getting her use to being on her own for short periods of time, but she cried so much that even when I stay in the house but leave her in her pen she's crying and doesn't settle long enough for me to let her out when she isn't crying, I know you aren't suppose to let them out when they are crying because it enforces that behaviour, but how do I let her out when all she does is cry? Since she does so well at night time with her crate I don't want her to start becoming afriad of it when I put her in it during the day, that's why I'm using the pen with her crate inside with the door open. Any advise or reassurance that I'm doing any of the right things would be great!, I'm just afraid of causing Zoey to have separation anxiety and I want to prevent that if at all possible. I also have been trying to give her less attention throughout the last few days to prepare her for me going back to work, she does seem to do ok with it, whining has decreased a bit but whenever I sit down anywhere she's right at my feet to sleep or chew her toy, etc. Any advice would be great on how to prepare your puppy being left alone, it breaks my heart to hear to cry and whine so loud! THanks
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We know what that cry is....((((HUGS)))))to you. I am sure Dave will be by soon with a nice article on Separation Anxiety. In the meantime, soak up all the resources you can on Separation Anxiety.

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Linda. Yeah I've got a couple of good article. I must say you are doing well and have grasped the right idea. Heres' one and here\s another

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When I was starting to leave Ceylon alone during the day as a very young puppy, I would always give him a special, long-lasting treat that he only got when he was alone - raw frozen meat, or a kong stuffed with super yummy stuff, things of that sort. While he still didn't like being left alone, he very quickly got to the point where he would almost look forward to me leaving, since he would get that treat that he never got any other time. Now, he only ever cries if I leave him alone on the weekends (I swear he knows what day of the week it is, and he knows that weekends are times I am supposed to spend all day with him!) or if I come home after work but then leave him again, if there is something I have to go to where he can't come with me.

Also, although he's pretty much 99.9% of the time ok now being left alone (he's 1 1/2 years old), I still almost always leave the TV on for him, as I think that helps him feel not so alone, with the voices and conversations and such providing at least auditory stimulation.

As far as Zoey being super-attached to you wherever you go when you are home, that's different. And, well, get used to it . Havs are called "velcro dogs" for a reason. Cey still follows me into the bathroom, and, pretty much anywhere else I go when I am with him. And while that may seem related to separation anxiety, please believe me, it doesn't have to be. You CAN raise a puppy that follows you everywhere, but is still OK with being left home alone.
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I started by leaving Ted when it was his nap time anyhow. He always has his naps and sleeps for the night in his pen with his crate in it. When I need to quiet him down, I put him in and sit at the table beside the pen with my laptop for a few minutes so he can see me. He usually settles right down and goes to sleep, then I go into my office (in my house) for the morning. Same when I go out (4 whole times so far)! So far so good. The longest I was gone was last night for 3 hours. He was happy to see us but he was quiet when we listened at the door before going in.

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Thanks everyone for your replies, the articles were a good read, today I got an ex pen and we are trying to get her use to that now, as that was what she was in at the breeders, she's not loving it really but I'm doing the tough love thing, giving her treats when she stays quiet for a while then she gets all excited again and it starts all over. She has all her toys and her dog bed in there with some extra blankets, her food and water as well, although she keeps spilling the water, and a peepad just in case. I'm staying in the room with her and she cried/whined for about a full hour and a bit! Argh this is hard, but I think/hope she will get use to this !! Everyone seems to say good things about the ex pen, so I'm hoping it works! I am relieved that she is safe in there and although the crying is heart breaking I can totally ignore it and feel like I can do my normal activities around the house! Any other advice would be great! Thanks again!
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